If you were widowed now, would you ever remarry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No - I could not. My husband is my first and only love. I could maybe love again (but never like I love my husbnad), but never marry again. I would want him to be my only husband. The reason I feel that I would never love anyone as much is becuase with him, when we married, I saw my whole future...our lives, children, dreams and hopes. It could never be the same.

I feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No - I could not. My husband is my first and only love. I could maybe love again (but never like I love my husbnad), but never marry again. I would want him to be my only husband. The reason I feel that I would never love anyone as much is becuase with him, when we married, I saw my whole future...our lives, children, dreams and hopes. It could never be the same.

I feel the same way.

that is just dumb. so if you were widowed you wouldn't have sex again either? of course you will develop feelings for whomever you are with, feelings that deepen over time into love and then marriage.

[Anonymous]

If I were widowed today, yes. My daughter is 2. I am young. I'd want a partner, and although I'd tell her everything about her real father, I WOULD want her to have some type of "father figure" in her life. I don't know how soon I'd remarry, but I do think eventually I would. I'm not even 30; I don't want to go through the best years of my life alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No - I could not. My husband is my first and only love. I could maybe love again (but never like I love my husbnad), but never marry again. I would want him to be my only husband. The reason I feel that I would never love anyone as much is becuase with him, when we married, I saw my whole future...our lives, children, dreams and hopes. It could never be the same.

I feel the same way.

that is just dumb. so if you were widowed you wouldn't have sex again either? of course you will develop feelings for whomever you are with, feelings that deepen over time into love and then marriage.

It's not dumb. Surprise surprise, different people handle things in different ways. The PP didn't say she would never have sex again, she said she would never marry again. Personally, I think I would marry again, but I don't think it's dumb that someone else would choose not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No - I could not. My husband is my first and only love. I could maybe love again (but never like I love my husbnad), but never marry again. I would want him to be my only husband. The reason I feel that I would never love anyone as much is becuase with him, when we married, I saw my whole future...our lives, children, dreams and hopes. It could never be the same.

I feel the same way.

that is just dumb. so if you were widowed you wouldn't have sex again either? of course you will develop feelings for whomever you are with, feelings that deepen over time into love and then marriage.

It's not dumb. Surprise surprise, different people handle things in different ways. The PP didn't say she would never have sex again, she said she would never marry again. Personally, I think I would marry again, but I don't think it's dumb that someone else would choose not to.

it is dumb to ever make a blanket statement about decades of living.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would hope to get married again, assuming I found the right man. One of my top requirements would be that he and my children love and respect each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No - I could not. My husband is my first and only love. I could maybe love again (but never like I love my husbnad), but never marry again. I would want him to be my only husband. The reason I feel that I would never love anyone as much is becuase with him, when we married, I saw my whole future...our lives, children, dreams and hopes. It could never be the same.

Wow. I loved other men before I loved my husband, I'm sure I could find another love after him.

[Anonymous]

It's one thing to speculate and another for it to actually happen.

My cousin (35) lost her true love last year. They have 3 children. I sure hope she'll find someone that she can love so that she won't be alone for the rest of her life. The youngest is still a baby so will never know the real father, but no one is talking about replacing the father...just the husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

it is dumb to ever make a blanket statement about decades of living.

In your opinion it is. The entire point of this thread is to give a blanket answer to a hypothetical question.

[Anonymous]

I find remarriage to be disrespectful to the deceased spouse. I know I'm in the minority, but there you go.

[Anonymous]

No way. Once is enough for me too.

[Anonymous]

I would marry rich. Very rich.

[Anonymous]

Funny. Any widows I know that say "no way", I always seem to think their first marriage sucked.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea. Dating would not be my first priority. I would suddenly be raising our two children on my own.

[Anonymous]

No, I never would.

My husband is all man to me, my only love. I have thought about this many times because he is in the military, and I have stared his death in the face on deployment. I am 35 now, and we've been together almost 20 years. Even beginning to consider where I would need to go to create the intimacy, understanding, and adoration we have for one another is exhausting.

I would focus on our children and, eventually, grandchildren. And live to be with him in eternity.