If you were widowed now, would you ever remarry?
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Anonymous
But I wasn't alone in the lonely sense when I was single. Were you? |
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Yes, I would. My husband and I actually talked about this while we were writing our wills. He said that he would want me to move on and have love again. His only remarks were to choose well and pick someone our daughter liked.
To the PP concerned about a stranger abusing her child, if it's someone that you met, dated, fell in love with and then married, that's hardly a stranger. I would hope that you would have better sense than to get married to someone you didn't know, both in general and especially as a widow with a small child to care for. |
Anonymous
| I was widowed at 32. I am 41 now. I have never remarried, but am in a long-term, live-in relationship. Having done it "right" once, it's not important to me to get married again, but I see myself staying in this relationship for the rest of my life. |
Anonymous
So sorry for your loss. I think I would choose this path myself. |
Anonymous
not really, but I also didn't have kids and other responsibilities. These are things we do as a unit - without him, it would be lonely. That was more what I was getting at. Dating and going out as a mature adult is a whole different ballgame. |
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OP here. I don't think that the pps concern about molestation is unreasonable. Even after "knowing" someone, and loving them, it could happen. Girls in their teen years are a turn on to most men whether the men want to admit it or not.
I dated a man who was widowed at 40. It turned out to be a terrible relationship because no woman could match his former wife. I had no intention of playing second fiddle for the rest of my life. He also said that he would never remarry. If the decision to never remarry as a result of death or divorce is made, we have to keep in mind that there are other feelings involved. People eventually get sick of that and move on. My concern would be financial since I see so many people get their finances screwed up in second marriages. The kids' inheritance can be lost too. At my age, getting used to a new person would be very hard. I can barely sit next to another man, so it would be hard. |
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I would not remarry and risk losing my child's inheritance in case of divorce or my death.
Even if money wasn't involved I don't think I would do it. Marriage is overrated. |
Anonymous
Funny PP |
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No - I could not. My husband is my first and only love. I could maybe love again (but never like I love my husbnad), but never marry again. I would want him to be my only husband. The reason I feel that I would never love anyone as much is becuase with him, when we married, I saw my whole future...our lives, children, dreams and hopes. It could never be the same.
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Anonymous
| Would not consider it until youngest turned 18. Predators prey on single mothers. Just read the Sandusky complaint. Hardly a mention of a father in it. Probably would not do it afterwards either. I do not want any more kids so why ever would I get married again? |
Anonymous
| If I could find somebody who would love me and yet still be willing to give me some space... |
Anonymous
the sandusky complaint would be an argument to marrying to have a father in your child's life. |
Anonymous
| Yes. I want my children to have a second parent. |
Anonymous
Totally this. |
Anonymous
| Never! |