Anonymous wrote:I am the single mom who posted a while back regarding help with making it on an under $75 k income. Many of your suggestions were great and have worked well for my son and I. Now, the biggest relief will come from me sending my son away early next year (for 6 months) to live with my mother while I save on childcare, get a roommate to stay for a few months to make extra income, and get my divorce completed.
My mother lives in another continent and would offer great love and care for my son. I am anticipating he will be back before the end of 2012, before he turns two. My soon to be XH and I have been getting nowhere with working out an arrangement regarding support and visitation. He has no interest in seeing him, or help in providing for him. Since my son's birth, he has only seen him a handful of times, and given very little in terms of financial support. He never shows up when he says he will, and laughs back at me on the phone every time I ask him to provide for my son. As a result, I have shut him out of our lives...no email, calls or text messages. Many friends think I should not tell him I will be sending my son away, while others think he has the right to know where his son is, despite the fact he could careless. My gut tells me not to say anything as this would create unnnecessary drama preventing me to send my son away (and as hard as it will be, I absolutley think sending my son away is the best decision for us at this time and will offer me the fastest solution to getting myself where I feel comfortable financially).
I was hoping to get some suggestions on thoughts of what you would do if you were in my shoes regarding whether to tell him or not.
Thanks in advance!
OP, I know someone who makes it on $65,000 with three children. Yet, you can't make it on $75,000? As for leaving and not letting father knw what you are doing? I wouldn't because this might be considered kidnapping and you could land in jail. Frankly, I think ou need help in how to budget, etc., if you can't make it on $75,000/yr with one kid.
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