Modern Brides and Grooms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if the couple is in their mid to late twenties and have been on their own for some time, they may have EVERYTHING they need already. I recall an uncle asked us if we "had pans" - REALLY?!?!? I've been out of my house for eight years and you are asking if I have pans? WTH do you think? I actually had (and still have) an amazing top notch set of really rare professional (actually professional) pans, if you must know. Do I have to explain this to you or are you going to continue with your condescending manner? - is all I could think! I couldn't believe how little this family bothered (didn't) to learn about me. Still holds true, actually.

Don't underestimate (insult) the bride and groom. If you are not comfortable with their registry well, it's not your registry! Give them money or a gift card to where they registered and be done with it. Or better yet, don't go.

But don't let the green monster rear its ugly head - it is unflattering and extremely obvious.

Sounds to me like the uncle WAS trying to learn about what you wanted or needed, by asking. How else did you expect him to do it? You sound like you're completey full of yourself--"actual professional"!! pans. Whoppee.

+1

Not just any old pans - professional [b]pans! Uncle should have known this! Don't all of our uncles know the contents of our kitchens?!

[Anonymous]

"But don't let the green monster rear its ugly head - it is unflattering and extremely obvious."

After a certain age, didn't you own certain things? Or is it our problem (somehow) that you did not? Yikes! Me thinks therapy is in order for 21:50!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: What we do find surprising, though, is how much loot these young kids register for. Even couples who have both had the good fortune to attend Ivy League colleges and professional schools, and who, consequently are in pretty lucrative jobs, which have, consequently, allowed them to purchase rather expensive first nests, seem to want to bring in a haul.

You are not expected to give them everything ask
If the prices are over the top. Find something similar of a cheaper make. That is what my friend discovered in her wedding.
Or give them what they are, except in smaller quantities. I still remember the lady that told me that there was a wedding where the wedding gift literally was one knife or a fork, because the couple had registered for such an expensive silverware set. So it was acceptable for the guests to buy only one