WAHM of 8 month old - WTF was I thinking?

[Anonymous]

I have been working from for years before baby came along. Baby started daycare the last week of my maternity leave. I did not think it was possible to have baby at home and still work. I think my baby is the cutest ever Since you have a very flexible job, you dont have to be in a hurry but for your own sanity, get some kind of childcare. You will have better structure to your day and all of your non-work time can be well spent on the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:did you really think you could work from home without childcare?

Yes, because before I had kids, I had no idea what the experience was going to be like. Unlike you, clearly.

OP, I knew nothing about kids before I had them, but living in the world and all I figured daycare existed for a reason. I know your child is young but once babies start crawling it takes ONE SECOND for them to get seriously hurt. Doesn't it seem unsafe to you to have a crawler or a toddler in the house without watching them all day? And unfair to the child???

Sorry, I just don't get how you thought this would be sustainable.

[Anonymous]

I think OP has sufficiently acknowledged the error of her thinking without the snarky bitches coming on here to pile on just for sport.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't post that comment. You failed to read the string. Besides that, a lot of new mommies don't even know, what they don't know.

I can't figure out whether you're being sarcastic or not. "New mommies don't even know, what they don't know" - am I the only one who thinks the combination of the term "mommies" and the rest of that sentence brings to mind someone dumb as rocks who can only think about one thing and one thing only (baby)? I didn't check my brain at the door when I got knocked up.

Oh for Christ's sake. You've never heard the phrase "you don't know what you don't know?" Aside from a rogue comma, it was clear to me. Perhaps you did check your brain at the door but no one has pointed it out to you. That wasn't rocket science.

Jesus - you weren't being sarcastic? I've heard the term before, but basically saying that "mommies" are ignorant is just annoying. As though being a mother makes you stupid. Make sense? Maybe not. Perhaps this is an offshoot of the fact that use of the term "mommy" is a pet peeve and I roll my eyes every time someone says it. (barring my own child, referring to me, obviously.) And the fact that people use the term "mommy brain" all the time to excuse sloppiness and forgetfulness because now that I'm back from maternity leave, people expect me to have "mommy brain." Wow, that was a tangent. Someone go ahead and call me a miserable *&$! now, I know it's coming...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't post that comment. You failed to read the string. Besides that, a lot of new mommies don't even know, what they don't know.

I can't figure out whether you're being sarcastic or not. "New mommies don't even know, what they don't know" - am I the only one who thinks the combination of the term "mommies" and the rest of that sentence brings to mind someone dumb as rocks who can only think about one thing and one thing only (baby)? I didn't check my brain at the door when I got knocked up.

Oh for Christ's sake. You've never heard the phrase "you don't know what you don't know?" Aside from a rogue comma, it was clear to me. Perhaps you did check your brain at the door but no one has pointed it out to you. That wasn't rocket science.

Jesus - you weren't being sarcastic? I've heard the term before, but basically saying that "mommies" are ignorant is just annoying. As though being a mother makes you stupid. Make sense? Maybe not. Perhaps this is an offshoot of the fact that use of the term "mommy" is a pet peeve and I roll my eyes every time someone says it. (barring my own child, referring to me, obviously.) And the fact that people use the term "mommy brain" all the time to excuse sloppiness and forgetfulness because now that I'm back from maternity leave, people expect me to have "mommy brain." Wow, that was a tangent. Someone go ahead and call me a miserable *&$! now, I know it's coming...

Two different posters. You really missed the mark. I think you do in fact have mommy mush brain.

[Anonymous]

You're a miserable *&$! !!

Just kidding, I kind of like you.

I WAH and I have full-time childcare. Although I don't get to spend all day with my kids, I do get to run laundry, run errands, wait for contractors, prep a nice homecooked meal, clean up a bit during breaks and then be fully present for my children when I pick them up and bring them home, which is priceless to me. WAH has been a blessing for me and has actually made me a lot more productive since I get this fabulous work/life balance.

I think every working mom should be afforded this opportunity. So ladies reading this thread listen up: GET CHILDCARE IF YOU'RE GOING TO WORK FROM HOME!! Trust me, you cannot do fulltime childcare AND work. And if you try, you're going to RUIN IT for those of us who do WAH and those who may benefit from it in the future.

*stepping off soapbox now*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't post that comment. You failed to read the string. Besides that, a lot of new mommies don't even know, what they don't know.

I can't figure out whether you're being sarcastic or not. "New mommies don't even know, what they don't know" - am I the only one who thinks the combination of the term "mommies" and the rest of that sentence brings to mind someone dumb as rocks who can only think about one thing and one thing only (baby)? I didn't check my brain at the door when I got knocked up.

No, I think this is an accurate statement. For example, when I was pregnant with my first child and new to DC nobody told me how long the waiting lists were for daycare centers! I went looking when I was eight months along only to have daycare people laugh in my face. I did not know and did not know I should know! Who knew you had to get on the waiting list at the moment of conception!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP didn't post that comment. You failed to read the string. Besides that, a lot of new mommies don't even know, what they don't know.

I can't figure out whether you're being sarcastic or not. "New mommies don't even know, what they don't know" - am I the only one who thinks the combination of the term "mommies" and the rest of that sentence brings to mind someone dumb as rocks who can only think about one thing and one thing only (baby)? I didn't check my brain at the door when I got knocked up.

No, I think this is an accurate statement. For example, when I was pregnant with my first child and new to DC nobody told me how long the waiting lists were for daycare centers! I went looking when I was eight months along only to have daycare people laugh in my face. I did not know and did not know I should know! Who knew you had to get on the waiting list at the moment of conception!

I think it is reasonable for someone not from this area to not know the insane waitlist times for childcare. BUT I do not think it is reasonable for anyone to think that you can have a baby and WAH. I dont care if you are a new mom....how does that make any sense? You will have to feed the baby, change the baby, play, take care of when sick, etc. Its common sense....really.

[Anonymous]

^^^ damn...should have said WAH without childcare....that makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BUT I do not think it is reasonable for anyone to think that you can have a baby and WAH. I dont care if you are a new mom....how does that make any sense? You will have to feed the baby, change the baby, play, take care of when sick, etc. Its common sense....really.

I don't think the OP said they expected to be tied to a desk or that they would ignore the baby for 8 solid hours. Some jobs do allow for down time. Unless she's manning a sewing machine in a sweat shop.

[Anonymous]

Childcare

[Anonymous]

I work from home and love it. I have an au pair. There is NO WAY I could do my job without childcare. Childcare is, itself, a full time job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work from home and love it. I have an au pair. There is NO WAY I could do my job without childcare. Childcare is, itself, a full time job.

You don't say!! I am the PP asking if OP really thought she could do without childcare. Even before I had kids I knew about nannies and daycare, so I figured that people weren't just wasting their money to get rid off their kids.

But now that OP knows, I hope she finds a solution that works for her. A baby jail to save money on childcare is obviously not it.

[Anonymous]

Oh btw PP, I didn't mean to sound snarky with you at all, just really wondered out loud how this could have been such a mystery for OP.

[Anonymous]

^^ You'll just be snarky with the OP who has admitted from even the title of her post that she screwed up. Good call.