Can we ban this phrase?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure the boy in the wheelchair's parents love him very much AND wish he weren't in a wheelchair. I'm sure the boy himself wishes he weren't in a wheelchair.

The point of the thread is that anti-natural birth posters use the phrase to make it seem as if people who choose a natural birth are compromising the chances of having a healthy baby by making that choice.

No, actually, I am NOT sure.

Neither the boy nor his parents probably spend their days wishing and hoping he weren't in a wheelchair.

You just don't get it.

I am not the pp you are answering to, but I agree with you that - I "don't get it." It is true that ALL I want is a healthy baby and I don't care at all the way he is delivered/arrives. I have a daughter and I love her to pieces and if she was unhealthy I am sure I would still love her to pieces - that doesn't detract of the fact that if I become pregnant again, still all I will want is a healthy baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I will not stop using that phrase. It is what I feel and you cannot tell me otherwise. As someone else mentioned, there are some mothers who are so concerned about their birth plan and not having a c-section that their health and their child's health, is could be put at risk.

So, I don't find it obnoxious or obvious. You are certainly entitled to your opinion, but I will continue with mine.

Completely agree with you pp. The OP foes not like the phrase bc it is used to illustrate that some ppl don't care about a birth plan other then having a healthy baby and some birth plans add risk. That's fact not an opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there those who do not want a healthy baby? Doesn't everyone want a healthy baby?

And a healthy baby can have special needs. Healthy does not have to equate to "perfect".

I think you missed the point. Yes, everyone wants a healthy baby. But the phrase "I don't care [about anything] as long as the baby is healthy" implies that in the hierarchy of wants and needs and desires, not having a special needs child comes before everything else. That anything and everything else is preferable to having an unhealthy child. Would it surprise you to know that special needs parents do not feel that way, do not lead lives of agony and despair and grief -- that we are actually happy and having fun too with out kids?

And I have to say, unhealthy does mean special needs. How else do you define it? What else is it that you think people are thinking of? A baby with a birthmark?

No not special needs. Parents don't want to injure their baby during delivery is that so hard to grasp? Stop using special needs kids as a pawn in this debate.