Is it inappropriate to have a shower for a 3rd kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A baby is something to celebrate
this is their first child together
If you do not like it do not go. Let them be happy and celebrate by themselves if they so wish
Every baby is a new baby

This.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Ok. Well, now they are having a second shower at work for this third baby. So I think at some point its in better taste to decline. And I did just that with my office and I'm only on kid 1. Now I'm thinking I made a mistake and need to participate and get mine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be on the showers are only for the first baby train, but sometimes people just want to celebrate and it's not about the gifts.

Now this may upset some people, but I don't care. I don't do showers for unwed mothers. I think your family and friends should buy you what you need privately.

I'm wed just not to the father of my soon to be DS. Would you throw a shower for me?
seems if anybody would need it it would be the single parent.

[Anonymous]

My friends threw me a 'second shower' and I was mortified but it turned out to be great fun for everyone. It wasn't shower-esque and more of a lunch with the girls. I was so worried about the etiquette of it but if people didn't want to come they didn't have to (everyone came).

As far as declining a shower and then wanting one after finding out about someones...that's kind of weird.

[Anonymous]

since when is a shower a gift-grab.
All the stuff I have received have been the average $5 to $10 price range.
It would be weird to throw a party just for to get that stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[u wrote:]since when is a shower a gift-grab.[/u]All the stuff I have received have been the average $5 to $10 price range.
It would be weird to throw a party just for to get that stuff.

Since people register and therefore are essentially telling you what gifts they want you to bring to "celebrate" the baby.

[Anonymous]

It is inappropriate to have a third child.

There are enough people in the world without further overpopulating it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[u wrote:]since when is a shower a gift-grab.[/u]All the stuff I have received have been the average $5 to $10 price range.
It would be weird to throw a party just for to get that stuff.

Since people register and therefore are essentially telling you what gifts they want you to bring to "celebrate" the baby.

Oh, I did not know
I have never been to registries. I am old fashioned that way. I buy a gift and the people can say thank you or no thank you.
Either way, the hassle of arranging a shower is far more expensive than the handful of cheap onesies and odd toys you end up getting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is inappropriate to have a third child.

There are enough people in the world without further overpopulating it.

LOL! This gets to the truly important question. Thanks for the laugh.

[Anonymous]

I declined a shower for second baby but was thrown a surprise shower. Friends offered for third baby but I said, "Let's just do lunch." We did. I used to think subsequent showers were tacky but now I understand that friends and family just want to celebrate the birth. I am totally ANTI-REGISTRY -- have never done one for any occasion -- so never feel I am squeezing anything out of anyone. But if someone registers I am glad to buy them whatever they want.