Am I being a doormat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy crap OP, you sound like my SIL. If you perceive (real or imagined) someone has more than you, you resent them? You are charging a friend why, because you think she has "more" than you? I think she offered to pay from the goodness of her heart, expecting you to refuse.

But if you insist on reclaiming goods that will go unused, in a weak effort to feel better about reclaiming that good, than so be it. I'm pretty sure she knows what is up.

We knew friends that could "afford" anything for their babies. These are people with amazing cars and amazing homes (as you seem to resent), amazing jobs, home decorating services, you name it. But when we had babies, we did not divide our friends into who we could be jealous of and who we were not jealous of. That is not what friendship or families are.

Life is too short. If you spend it keeping score, you will be very unhappy and you will teach your children the same. Isn't there enough of that around here?

"Deciding" who you think is worthy of the item will never work. You never really know who has what hardships. The friends with "nice stuff" might be bending over backwards to support their extended family, or health issues, which they probably don't discuss. Certainly not to you! The world does not revolve around who you give what, OP. Get over yourself.

Holy overreaction Batman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I've been remiss in getting you the money. Now that I know it's irking you, I'll get it to you soon. Sorry.

Doh! Really busted or just an object lesson in internet non-anonymity?

[Anonymous]

Send her a paypal invoice.

[Anonymous]

Please feel free to mail me your check any time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I've been remiss in getting you the money. Now that I know it's irking you, I'll get it to you soon. Sorry.

Doh! Really busted or just an object lesson in internet non-anonymity?

It's gotta be a joke... But you never know. OP got so carried away with her anger that she may have disclosed a bit too much about her friend!

[Anonymous]

OP, I know someone like this, and it bugs the crap out of me. She's a total cheapskate and will do anything to get out out paying her share at a restaurant, taxi, whatever. Normally I'm fairly generous--happy to treat people to drinks, or whatever--but that changes when I feel like I'm being used. I had a very similar situation with said friend, but over larger sum. I was finally quite pointed about it and it got the message across. What I realized is that *she* would never let it slide if someone owed her money. So why should I?

the person who suggested you tell her that you have someone else in mind for it if she's not going to buy it is spot on.