DH waking me up in the morning

[Anonymous]

OP ignore the people who are giving you a hard time. I too am very protective of my sleep. Some people just need more than others. The fact that your DH simply disregards your needs is really disrespectful, and over time that can be really detrimental to a marriage. Have a serious talk with him, over dinner or a glass of wine, and explain that you are really starting to feel resentful. Don't focus on justifying your need for more sleep--that doesn't matter. The fact is that you've told him it is important and that should be enough.

DH needs to learn how to let you sleep BEFORE you have a baby. The first few months will likely involve a good amount of sleeping in shifts, and if DH can't keep quiet when you get a chance to sleep or has to wake you every 10 minutes to ask where to find the diaper cream or whether the swaddle is tight enough, it could very well turn into World War III. You NEED to be looking out for each other in those crazy new baby days. Also, don't assume a baby means you will have to get up early forever. By about 4 months my DS was sleeping until 8 am and often quite a bit later. I imagine you're not sleeping much later than that on weekdays now. The point is, you need to get this figured out before you have a baby.

[Anonymous]

My DH wakes up for work like an hour and a half before I do. He puts all his clothes and his bag and whatever else he needs out in another room the night before. Then he just wakes up, leaves the room, and does whatever he needs to do to get ready while I sleep. I don't even wake up most mornings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH wakes up for work like an hour and a half before I do. He puts all his clothes and his bag and whatever else he needs out in another room the night before. Then he just wakes up, leaves the room, and does whatever he needs to do to get ready while I sleep. I don't even wake up most mornings.

Not OP but why are so many people responding with accounts of how wonderful they or their DH is about not waking the other one up in the morning? OP's problem is that her husband is not willing to do this. I don't see how this type of "advice" is helpful...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH wakes up for work like an hour and a half before I do. He puts all his clothes and his bag and whatever else he needs out in another room the night before. Then he just wakes up, leaves the room, and does whatever he needs to do to get ready while I sleep. I don't even wake up most mornings.

Not OP but why are so many people responding with accounts of how wonderful they or their DH is about not waking the other one up in the morning? OP's problem is that her husband is not willing to do this. I don't see how this type of "advice" is helpful...

People are trying to make the point that it's a reasonable expectation (although many here seem to be suggesting it isn't).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH wakes up for work like an hour and a half before I do. He puts all his clothes and his bag and whatever else he needs out in another room the night before. Then he just wakes up, leaves the room, and does whatever he needs to do to get ready while I sleep. I don't even wake up most mornings.

Not OP but why are so many people responding with accounts of how wonderful they or their DH is about not waking the other one up in the morning? OP's problem is that her husband is not willing to do this. I don't see how this type of "advice" is helpful...

Sorry - I am the PP that posted about what my husband does. I was trying to point out that indeed, other husbands do respect sleeping wives and it's not a big deal and giving a suggestion for what he could do. I thought I WAS being helpful - but sorry if I wasn't.

[Anonymous]

Eh, after you have a baby you'll either be so tired that you'll sleep through his crap, or you'll be up with the baby anyway.