DH waking me up in the morning

[Anonymous]

"I make sure to remind him right before going to bed that he cannot wake me up.. doesn't matter. What can I do about this? "

Your husband is a grown man, not a child. Try treating him as such.

[Anonymous]

You sound very high maintenance.

[Anonymous]

I am the one in my relationship that gets up 2 hours earlier than DH. I am confident that I wake him up 50% of the time and I don't turn on any lights nor do I get dressed in our bedroom. He doesn't seem to mind, however, and just rolls over and goes back to bed. We decided early in our relationship that going to bed together was important to us, so we go to bed at a decent hour for me (can you do the same for your DH? go to bed when he needs to go to bed?) and then we read some and he says it takes him longer to get to sleep than it takes me, but it's still nice to be together. Then, if he does get woken up in the morning, sometimes he'll get up just after me or sometimes he'll roll over and go back to sleep for a bit. I moved all of my work clothes to a guest bedroom and I use our guest bathroom (I prefer to have my own bathroom, so this doesn't bother me at all). I try to not re-enter the bedroom after rolling over, grabbing my blackberry, and toddling out of the room to the bathroom. You could get up and work out in the morning or something if you could get to bed at a decent hour, so you aren't tired.

[Anonymous]

OP, I would give him a taste of his own medicine. If he goes to bed earlier than you I would just do the same thing to him but at night time. For some with my DH doing this is the ONLY way to make him get something. To all of you who are saying OP is silly...she's not. He's not being considerate. My DH gets up 3 hours earlier than me and he seems to manage to close the bathroom door, not wake me etc... And I do the same for him at night because I go to bed two hours later than him. I would drive me crazy too. It's inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

OP here - When I said this would probably be a non-issue after TTC, I meant that we'd have a baby and I would not have the luxury of sleeping "late" every day anyway.

90% of the time I do go to bed at the same time as DH anyway. I just prefer more sleep than he does and I don't see any reason why that is a problem. It's not as much that I am complaining he wakes me up while trying to get clothes out of the closet or anything reasonable like that, but when he comes over and specifically talks to me, or turns the light up to the highest setting and forgets to shut it off again, or leaves the door open and turns on the tv right outside- it's just inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like he's just forgetful. Doesn't seem like he's doing it on purpose. Which means your only option is to sleep in a different room when you want to sleep in. My husband and I wake each other all the time.Not a big deal for us though. If it's not time to get up we go back t o sleep or lay in bed for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:We are TTC and I suspect that this will become a non-issue when/if we finally conceive, but here goes anyway. DH has to wake up for work six days per week at about 5:15-5:30. I do not have to wake up this early or even close to it. No matter what I do and how much I beg him, he always wakes me up at some point during the morning before he leaves. It is driving me crazy and I am at my end with this. He does have ADD and I don't know if that is part of it, but it's like he just can't go one morning without waking me up. Either forgetting to shut the bedroom door/forgetting to shut the light off when he leaves the bedroom, which wakes me up because of the light and sound, or even actually waking me up himself because he has a question for me or forgot to tell me something that he deems important. I'd say it's about 50/50 between the two. Meanwhile, I can't tell you the last time I slept past 7 am - usually far earlier - on a Saturday or other days when I don't have to wake up early, which REALLY pisses me off. It totally sucks that his job requires him to get up that early and I would not want to do that myself. However, I work very hard at my own job and am always tired, which needs to stop. I have yelled, screamed, pleaded, explained nicely... no matter what I do, the result is the same. I make sure to remind him right before going to bed that he cannot wake me up.. doesn't matter. What can I do about this?

What the hell does any of the above have to do with TTC? Zilch! He is inconsiderate and you are some kind of pampered princess, so he gets his jollies by being incosiderate.

[Anonymous]

I just said - it has to do with TTC because if we have a baby I will be waking up earlier and this will be a non issue when I can't sleep late anyway. Not sure why I am being called a pampered princess.

[Anonymous]

Sleep is i

[Anonymous]

If you don't want him to talk to you at 5am - then don't answer or acknowledge him. This will be good practice for when you do have a child.

[Anonymous]

Agree with 8:47 about the ear plugs and eye mask--it makes all the difference in the world.

[Anonymous]

Wake up with him and get some stuff done. I have no sympathy for people who are whiny and precious about their sleep. Then, of course, they want to complain that they don't have enough time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just said - it has to do with TTC because if we have a baby I will be waking up earlier and this will be a non issue when I can't sleep late anyway. Not sure why I am being called a pampered princess.

Because you are. Listen to yourself "he can't wake me up no matter what" or "yelling and screaming" and "I prefer more sleep"

Are you going to yell and scream at your child when he or she doesn't let you sleep?

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Anonymous wrote:I tried to set an example for my DH. When I have to get up earlier than he does, I get all my clothing and things that I will need for the next morning and put them in the bathroom or the laundry room. That way, I just have to slip out of bed and close the door behind me. I feel that that is the most thoughtful thing to do. Unfortunately, my DH doesn't get the hint. He gets up, has his coffee, comes back to bedroom and proceeds to turn his closet light on and rifle around in there. Then, he rummages through his drawers or through the laundry basket. He has never, ever tried to set his clothes out the night before. He does not have the excuse of ADD. It's just plain thoughtlessness. If i've forgotten something in my closet I walk into the closet then turn the light on and close the door.

I think my DH must be living a double life. Mine does the SAME EXACT THING! the best part, if I wake him up on a saturday when he is sleeping in, he is a grouchy bear.

wth?

[Anonymous]

I sympathize, OP. My DH also gets up extremely early to be at work by 5:30. I really appreciate how hard he tries not to wake me up (and he almost never does). It sounds like your husband is either inconsiderate, ridiculously forgetful, or just passive aggressive. Are you sure it isn't the latter?

Ignore those who are giving you a hard time about this. They're moms who can't sleep in anymore themselves because of their kids, so they've lost all sympathy for anyone else who is sleep-deprived. Misery loves company.