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Why even bother having kids? (Flame away)-- nanny ad, hours 3:30-8pm
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Anonymous
Well, I don't know anything about this situation, either, but my first impression would also be: Wow, this might be a really tough situation for the kids. 
It's possible that the parent(s) in this family have to be available to work long hours, and they don't always know in advance what days that will be. So if you have the $$, might as well hire someone to be there every night just in case. The other thing I can think of (and this happened in my family), is that a parent has to study for the Bar or some other professional licensing thingie and needs that time for a few months. Yeah, it sucks. |
Anonymous
Seriously. I hate this--judgey, insecure creeps who internet stalk you. |
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Anonymous
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I don't have a 5,3, and 1 year old but I don't envy any family that does, nor do I look down on any family that might want a little help with children these ages.
Tell us, OP, do you have 3 kids under age 5? And you did it with no help at all? Please, give us your secrets. |
Anonymous
| Op, Most hard working people don't clock out at 5. Nor do doctors or nurses. Nor can Google tell you the hours someone works or if they also gave elderly parents to cere for or if they have an illness like MS that slows them down. Mind your own business. |
Anonymous
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I'm trying to figure out the problem. 3:30 pm to 8:30 pm Monday-Thursday. 5 hours a day, 4 days a week. How is that not bothering to be a parent?
I'm assuming one parent must work an afternoon shift 4 days a week. Hard to find childcare after 6 pm, therefore they are looking for a nanny? Unless of course the kids are in school and daycare until 3:30. But the ad doesn't mention pickup and only the 5 year old is of school age. |
Anonymous
lazy! |
Anonymous
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^^ Jealous!
I don't have a nanny, nor do I SAH, but if I had the means, you can be sure I would have a nanny to help out in the evenings! |
Anonymous
| I am a SAHM and have no problem with judging but you haters are just wrong. The kids will be fine in the end. People have been raised well with much less than they will have. If I had a strong career that required those hours I would send my kids to daycare or employ several nannies and think nothing of it because I LOVE THEM. It's that simple. |
Anonymous
| This thread is stupid. The lady is advertising for PT help. How is this an issue? |
Anonymous
| Maybe OP is just flaming because she cannot get gainful employment. Or maybe she is just frustrated because she is overwhelmed with raising her own children. There has to be a reason why she seems so obsessed with these parents. OP, why were you even searching for nanny positions? |
Anonymous
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OP: you're a bored mom with too much time so you need to judge others for distraction. So that YOU don't feel bad you decided to bring this post to the board in hopes others will feel the same way and of course some will.
Why don't you answer the ad since you've obviously got the time and think you know better? |
Anonymous
Why did you bother to have kids? How did our mothers raise children without paid help? |
Anonymous
because they had family close by and a very supportive community. today's world is different you asshole. nobody cares about others, relatives live far away and your neighbors just judge you instead of offering a helping hand. OP is a great example. instead of helping her neighbor (clearly, it's a neighborhood listserv) she's judging them and in a very coward way, anonymously and behind their backs. way to go ladies, way to go! |
Anonymous
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"because they had family close by and a very supportive community. "
Huh? Stats, please. |
Anonymous
I am the SAHM above. I'm not quite sure why you are so put out by how I choose to run my home. Having someone help with your children does not mean you do not love them. It does mean you can spend good amounts of quality and quantity time with all of them without being stressed and short tempered. I adore my kids and that is why I left a very well paying job (investment banking) to stay home to care for them. It is wonderful having full time help. I still spend most of my time with my kids. All morning and most of the afternoon with the two small ones still at home and the rest of the afternoon with the older one- pick up and after school activities, homework without ruining the younger ones' nap schedule. My nanny and I then tackle supper, bath and bedtime with my husband pitching in as needed. Having a nanny also means I can have some down time out of the house for me (shopping, gym and yes, sometimes just meeting friends for lunch) and to volunteer at my older child's school. She also helps me with housework, laundry and cleaning which is a blessing. It works wonderfully well for us. FWIW my mother had way more help than I have now and she was and still is a wonderful mom who was and is always there for her kids. |