Why does my friend not realize this guy is a loser?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine something like this:

Her: mid 40s. HS diploma, has never worked because she was "raising the kids." Divorced; living on alimony and child support. Has three kids from a previous marriage. Droopy rack, overweight, not very pretty. Not particularly articulate, doesn't read books or newspapers. Admitted she got cheated on by ex-husband.

Him: mid 40s. Bachelor. Tall, thin, attractive, intelligent. Divorced, gainfully employed professional, sold one house and now rents a SFH.

Why are guys so desperate?

There is a huge difference between "got cheated on" and "Cheated".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine something like this:

Her: mid 40s. HS diploma, has never worked because she was "raising the kids." Divorced; living on alimony and child support. Has three kids from a previous marriage. Droopy rack, overweight, not very pretty. Not particularly articulate, doesn't read books or newspapers. Admitted she got cheated on by ex-husband.

Him: mid 40s. Bachelor. Tall, thin, attractive, intelligent. Divorced, gainfully employed professional, sold one house and now rents a SFH.

Why are guys so desperate?

I'm not sure what your point is or what this adds to the discussion. That losers are on both sides of genders? I think we all get that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine something like this:

Her: mid 40s. HS diploma, has never worked because she was "raising the kids." Divorced; living on alimony and child support. Has three kids from a previous marriage. Droopy rack, overweight, not very pretty. Not particularly articulate, doesn't read books or newspapers. Admitted she got cheated on by ex-husband.

Him: mid 40s. Bachelor. Tall, thin, attractive, intelligent. Divorced, gainfully employed professional, sold one house and now rents a SFH.

Why are guys so desperate?

Dunno, if it's a 38G or something, I can live with that.

[Anonymous]

OP - what do you have in common with your "friend"?

[Anonymous]

Is this post for real??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is horse shit.

Of course the guy's a loser. OP, these guys are in a crack haze or something. You're not judgemental. You see a successful, attractive college educated woman going out with an uneducated guy who lives in someone's basement. I'm right there with you shaking my head. Loser.

Who the hell is calling OP a judgmental bitch? Are you serious? Jesus, I'm glad you're not my friend. Friends are supposed to shake some sense in you. Apparently, for this one, ANYONE would be good enough for ANYONE ELSE.

I agree with you. Why are all of these posters assuming that because he's a loser on paper that he's wonderful inside? Let's face it, he IS a loser on paper, and your friend is not. It's absolutely absurd that everyone here is assuming he has some wonderful hidden qualities. Would you all be making the same assumptions about his personality if he were a multi-millionaire? No, you'd probably assume he's a complete jerk. Being unsuccessful and living in someone's basement does NOT mean that you have wonderful hidden qualities and must be some wonderful soul, just like having money doesnt make you a shallow jerk. One more point: why is everyone praising him for meeting his child support obligations??? As though he's doing his ex wife some sort of favor? He is REQUIRED to PAY. He's not doing anyone any favors, and he certainly shouldnt be getting any praise for not being a deadbeat. It should be, and is EXPECTED that he makes these payments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is horse shit.

Of course the guy's a loser. OP, these guys are in a crack haze or something. You're not judgemental. You see a successful, attractive college educated woman going out with an uneducated guy who lives in someone's basement. I'm right there with you shaking my head. Loser.

Who the hell is calling OP a judgmental bitch? Are you serious? Jesus, I'm glad you're not my friend. Friends are supposed to shake some sense in you. Apparently, for this one, ANYONE would be good enough for ANYONE ELSE.

I agree with you. Why are all of these posters assuming that because he's a loser on paper that he's wonderful inside? Let's face it, he IS a loser on paper, and your friend is not. It's absolutely absurd that everyone here is assuming he has some wonderful hidden qualities. Would you all be making the same assumptions about his personality if he were a multi-millionaire? No, you'd probably assume he's a complete jerk. Being unsuccessful and living in someone's basement does NOT mean that you have wonderful hidden qualities and must be some wonderful soul, just like having money doesnt make you a shallow jerk. One more point: why is everyone praising him for meeting his child support obligations??? As though he's doing his ex wife some sort of favor? He is REQUIRED to PAY. He's not doing anyone any favors, and he certainly shouldnt be getting any praise for not being a deadbeat. It should be, and is EXPECTED that he makes these payments.

Finally! A voice of reason! Thank you.