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Why does my friend not realize this guy is a loser?
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Anonymous
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This is horse shit.
Of course the guy's a loser. OP, these guys are in a crack haze or something. You're not judgemental. You see a successful, attractive college educated woman going out with an uneducated guy who lives in someone's basement. I'm right there with you shaking my head. Loser. Who the hell is calling OP a judgmental bitch? Are you serious? Jesus, I'm glad you're not my friend. Friends are supposed to shake some sense in you. Apparently, for this one, ANYONE would be good enough for ANYONE ELSE. |
Anonymous
| OP didn't say what's so great about the friend, other than being tall and in possession of a college degree... If she's a judgmental jerk like OP, maybe she should count herself lucky to have landed the guy in the basement. |
Anonymous
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good sex, I guess. but he does sound a loser....
please, none of YOU would date him! |
Anonymous
| In every sitcom, it's the loser that lives in someone's basement after age 30. Please. That's just obvious. |
Anonymous
Life is not TV. Please. That's just obvious. |
Anonymous
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How about this as a catch:
Education: College dropout. Current residence: Sundowner Motel, Albuquerque. Shares a room with weird bearded guy. Occupation: electronics hobbyist. Arrests: 2. Appearance:Skinny, thick glasses, rocks back and forth when in conversation. Other: car stinks of sour milk That was Bill Gates in 1975. Don't judge. |
Anonymous
| You know what Bill Gates also was? An OUTLIER. I'm going with a 95% confidence interval with my partner choices, thank you. |
Anonymous
| And PS, Harvard drop out is a little different from no college. |
Anonymous
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Funny thing. My aunt and uncle got divorced after about 20 years of marriage. They had been well off before that. Even by DCUM standards. My aunt got to keep the house because she had custody of the minor children, and my uncle spent four years living in a group home of sorts with 3 other men, just renting a room. He continued to pay his child support and put the kids through college. He got back on his feet financially after 6 or 7 years I think, and he acquired wealth all over again as a CFO of a large hospital chain. He got remarried and is very happy.
Divorce beats the shit out of you. This guy might be a life-long loser, or he might just be down on his luck right now, trying to do the right thing. |
Anonymous
I am not on any drugs, mind-altering or otherwise, and I think you and the OP sound like total bitches. Not everyone checks considers a potential mate's CV or real estate holdings to be the deciding factors in whether he/she is worthy. Sometimes those without financial or educational success are amazing people on the inside and make others feel safe/loved. But I guess if you yourself are ugly on the inside, the trappings of success are really all that matters (in your own self-appraisal and your choice of mate). |
Anonymous
Yes, I get that. But there are many fine people with a high school education and not a lot of money. Conversely there are a lot of rich assholes. Maybe you have a 95% confidence interval around the wrong variable. |
Anonymous
Would any of you, other than the mercenary ones, really want to be married to Bill Gates? Not me.
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Anonymous
I' ll admit that I wouldn't marry someone if their only qualifications were "amazing on the inside" and "made others feel safe/loved."
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Anonymous
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Can you imagine something like this:
Her: mid 40s. HS diploma, has never worked because she was "raising the kids." Divorced; living on alimony and child support. Has three kids from a previous marriage. Droopy rack, overweight, not very pretty. Not particularly articulate, doesn't read books or newspapers. Admitted she got cheated on by ex-husband. Him: mid 40s. Bachelor. Tall, thin, attractive, intelligent. Divorced, gainfully employed professional, sold one house and now rents a SFH. Why are guys so desperate? |
Anonymous
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OK, the not reading newspapers and books thing indicates a possible lack of compatible interests down the road, but that only matters if you let it.
The cheating, probable bad news but do we know how the guy's ex was acting beforehand? (Some guys are complete dogs, some wives act in manners that make other women look pretty attractive.) The living in a relative's basement thing is a potential issue but why pay DC-area rents AND child support? Better to rebuild finances, etc., if living out in Winchester or Fredericksburg isn't really an option. Balding and overweight? Oh noes a 40-something guy is balding and overweight! But what's attractive about OP's friend? Is she nice? Considerate? Or is she just another thin, educated professional that married some frat boy out of college? |