Would you tell your husband?

[Anonymous]

Virginia is apparently where all the action is!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I travel quite often for business and it requires a fair amount of customer entertaining with both men and women. While I am very good at keeping the conversation focused on business a number times I’ve been hit on by men and by one woman. I quickly decline and move on. I don’t tell my husband about what happened because no one ever got handsy or aggressive. Would you tell your husband?

Hiding things from your husband is a recipe for divorce.
The fact that you are even thinking about keeping something like this to yourself, shows that you don’t trust him. Your relationship isn’t based on trust and that’s a huge red flag.
Transparency is a must for a healthy marriage. You aren’t being transparent.
Tell him asap and come clean.

No, actually it shows that the person keeping the secrets cannot be trusted.

[Anonymous]

Maybe just to remind him what a lucky guy he is!! 💋

Haha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip this. I have been told by 3 different unrelated women in the last year that my DH is 'perfect', 'sooooo gorgeous', and how 'lucky' I should feel to have such a man like I do.

One of these women was single and an across the street renter the same age as us.

Nope. I didn't tell him any of that. Why would I?

I’ve had this from two former friends early in the relationship with DH. One used to make “divide and conquer” comments with both of us around (e.g. “wow, Larlo, your driving is just so much smoother than your wife’s”) and the other literally used to make my DH cookies. Emphasis on “former.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, because we talk about everything literally everything together.

This is how our relationship works too.

Being hit on isn’t an every day thing for me though, so it it would be a unique answer to “how was your day?”

[Anonymous]

I would tell my husband because we'd find it funny. I can think of a woman I know whose husband would NOT find it funny so I doubt she'd ever tell him. Only you know your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's never really occured to me to tell him when I get hit on. There doesn't seem to be a point. Would I want to make him jealous? No. Would I want to make him appreciate that I'm still attractive? He already does.

I've told him some funny stories around being hit on, but never just to tell him I've been hit on.

I'm the immediate PP and I mean this. I wouldn't necessarily recount every scenario because some are boring, but funny stories for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope.
I work in a very incestuous type work environment. Ive never cheated on spouse but I am very close to a couple of the guys I work with as far as banter/inappropriate conversations. Im not going to tell my spouse and give her things to worry about that aren't there.

This is interesting because you're a man but OP is a woman (I assumed that at least, she could be a man with a husband, sorry if I'm wrong). I am also a woman so I was considering the question from that standpoint but I do wonder if I'd answer differently if it were about a husband telling his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If my dh told me that I would think he was feeling guilty for doing something.

Sounds like you don't trust him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd tell my husband if it was an interesting/funny story, not just a regular boring being hit on story.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I’d say you should tell only if it’s a material incident. I assume people hit on my DW all the time, people being what they are, and if quickly dismissed it’s just like being cut off in traffic or something, people can be jerks. But if it was to the point where it caused her distress or where she encouraged it to a point where it became a concern, I’d want to know.

[Anonymous]

Married 30 years and absolutely tell DH - I do!

[Anonymous]

you should tell him about the woman and he would appreciate that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d say you should tell only if it’s a material incident. I assume people hit on my DW all the time, people being what they are, and if quickly dismissed it’s just like being cut off in traffic or something, people can be jerks. But if it was to the point where it caused her distress or where she encouraged it to a point where it became a concern, I’d want to know.

+100