Would you tell your husband?

[Anonymous]

I probably wouldn't say anything unless I felt threatened or insulted. But I also think both of us would rather be in a relationship with a partner who is attractive enough to encounter this once in a while than the alternative, so it's not perceived as a threat just because someone else decides to hit on one of us.

[Anonymous]

If my dh told me that I would think he was feeling guilty for doing something.

[Anonymous]

I'll flip this. I have been told by 3 different unrelated women in the last year that my DH is 'perfect', 'sooooo gorgeous', and how 'lucky' I should feel to have such a man like I do.

One of these women was single and an across the street renter the same age as us.

Nope. I didn't tell him any of that. Why would I?

[Anonymous]

Only if I had really felt threatened. If you travel a lot for business you can expect this to happen and you learn to deal with it. I don’t need my husbands advice on how to deal with it. Once I did tell my husband about one encounter that was so ridiculous I couldn’t help but tell him. My husbands response was “well, has great taste.”

[Anonymous]

I'd tell my husband if it was an interesting/funny story, not just a regular boring being hit on story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I travel quite often for business and it requires a fair amount of customer entertaining with both men and women. While I am very good at keeping the conversation focused on business a number times I’ve been hit on by men and by one woman. I quickly decline and move on. I don’t tell my husband about what happened because no one ever got handsy or aggressive. Would you tell your husband?

Loving how OP frames this as totally passive on her part. If it's happening repeatedly then it's mutual flirtation and you're getting off on the attention.. You probably need to stop drinking when you are entertaining customers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I travel quite often for business and it requires a fair amount of customer entertaining with both men and women. While I am very good at keeping the conversation focused on business a number times I’ve been hit on by men and by one woman. I quickly decline and move on. I don’t tell my husband about what happened because no one ever got handsy or aggressive. Would you tell your husband?

Hiding things from your husband is a recipe for divorce.
The fact that you are even thinking about keeping something like this to yourself, shows that you don’t trust him. Your relationship isn’t based on trust and that’s a huge red flag.
Transparency is a must for a healthy marriage. You aren’t being transparent.
Tell him asap and come clean.

[Anonymous]

I travel for work a lot and get hit on. I also get hit on at the coffeeshop, the grocery store, etc. I share if there's a funny story behind it. Or if the guy was exceptionally pushy, threatening, etc.

But I don't think it's necessary to share in the name of "transparency". It would be weird if every single day your spouse was all "I got hit on at the Verizon store" "I got hit on at the gas station", like you're trying to make the other person jealous.

I don't share all of the everyday, common things that happen to me like conversations with cashiers or how many times I went to the bathroom, so why would I need to share this?

But I wouldn't hide it, either. If asked, I'd be honest. If they had an issue, and, say, wanted me to go on fewer work trips, I'd have a real problem with that.

[Anonymous]

My wife told. She was six months pregnant and on her last trip when her phone rang at 3am. She declined but had to see him the next day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife told. She was six months pregnant and on her last trip when her phone rang at 3am. She declined but had to see him the next day

I think there is more to this story. Time for popcorn.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

I’m a kind of well off dude in my early 50s.
I got carded until a few years ago. Great shape.

Seriously the flirting or amount of women I could have nailed during my marriage are just noise. I am happily married and, while at times ego boosting, are irrelevant.

My wife does not care, nor would I (unless she took up an offer) as if you are a successful, decent looking person it happens all the time.

You sound seriously insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a kind of well off dude in my early 50s.
I got carded until a few years ago. Great shape.

Seriously the flirting or amount of women I could have nailed during my marriage are just noise. I am happily married and, while at times ego boosting, are irrelevant.

My wife does not care, nor would I (unless she took up an offer) as if you are a successful, decent looking person it happens all the time.

You sound seriously insecure.

Similar guy here- the amount of married, workplace women that are up for grabs is pretty shocking. I'm talking white collar, DC gigs. Women with graduate degrees, husbands, kids, etc owning houses in Old Town, Del Ray, Vienna,Mclean just literally up for the taking.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course. I would just as part of how my day went.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll flip this. I have been told by 3 different unrelated women in the last year that my DH is 'perfect', 'sooooo gorgeous', and how 'lucky' I should feel to have such a man like I do.

One of these women was single and an across the street renter the same age as us.

Nope. I didn't tell him any of that. Why would I?

My neighbor has said that and yes, I told my husband. We had a good laugh over it.