Wife wants me to pick up baby in the middle of the day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I am assuming that this is your child as well. Did you understand that you would sometimes need to parent this child? And that it wouldn’t always be convenient? You are in for a long road if you can’t handle the inconvenience of transitioning your baby to daycare.

Nope. Mom's ask is ridiculous and stems from her own feelings of having the child at daycare. It's not tenable.

You are awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wife wants her baby.

If she's not home what difference does it make? They need full time. If DW is free she can pick her up early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I am assuming that this is your child as well. Did you understand that you would sometimes need to parent this child? And that it wouldn’t always be convenient? You are in for a long road if you can’t handle the inconvenience of transitioning your baby to daycare.

Nope. Mom's ask is ridiculous and stems from her own feelings of having the child at daycare. It's not tenable.

You are awful.

DP but why is that awful? It’s the truth.
It’s not about the baby, it’s about mom’s feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - I am assuming that this is your child as well. Did you understand that you would sometimes need to parent this child? And that it wouldn’t always be convenient? You are in for a long road if you can’t handle the inconvenience of transitioning your baby to daycare.

Nope. Mom's ask is ridiculous and stems from her own feelings of having the child at daycare. It's not tenable.

You are awful.

DP but why is that awful? It’s the truth.
It’s not about the baby, it’s about mom’s feelings.

+1, and it's not awful to say it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our 5 month old is in daycare now, my wife recently went back to work but she works a part time hourly job. I’m full time with a hybrid work schedule. She wants me to both drop our baby off and pick her up doing half days because she’s young and my wife is trying to ease her in to it. But this is not working, I have a varied schedule with lots of meetings, sometimes I need to be in the office, and it’s overall very disruptive to my work flow. My wife is part time but sometimes has a meeting in the early afternoon. I’m telling her that if she can’t pick up the baby halfway through the day then we will need to leave her at daycare all day. But she’s afraid of leaving our daughter there for so long. What do we do!!! This is so frustrating.

Dude. You need to make it work. Block your diary. Make it known you have pickup on such and such days at x hour and make them respect that. This is what normal workers do.

Signed, another dude who was doing that shit 20 years ago. It's not that hard.

Also, quit whining. Man up already.

Did you even read? Not an end of day pickup - a middle of the workday pickup.

DP

So what? How far away is this day care? It can't be that far. Block the time. This isn't hard.

[Anonymous]

Has OP taken any significant leave to care for this baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our 5 month old is in daycare now, my wife recently went back to work but she works a part time hourly job. I’m full time with a hybrid work schedule. She wants me to both drop our baby off and pick her up doing half days because she’s young and my wife is trying to ease her in to it. But this is not working, I have a varied schedule with lots of meetings, sometimes I need to be in the office, and it’s overall very disruptive to my work flow. My wife is part time but sometimes has a meeting in the early afternoon. I’m telling her that if she can’t pick up the baby halfway through the day then we will need to leave her at daycare all day. But she’s afraid of leaving our daughter there for so long. What do we do!!! This is so frustrating.

Dude. You need to make it work. Block your diary. Make it known you have pickup on such and such days at x hour and make them respect that. This is what normal workers do.

Signed, another dude who was doing that shit 20 years ago. It's not that hard.

Also, quit whining. Man up already.

Did you even read? Not an end of day pickup - a middle of the workday pickup.

DP

So what? How far away is this day care? It can't be that far. Block the time. This isn't hard.

Watching an infant and working at the same time actually is very hard. Basically impossible to do both with the care they deserve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our 5 month old is in daycare now, my wife recently went back to work but she works a part time hourly job. I’m full time with a hybrid work schedule. She wants me to both drop our baby off and pick her up doing half days because she’s young and my wife is trying to ease her in to it. But this is not working, I have a varied schedule with lots of meetings, sometimes I need to be in the office, and it’s overall very disruptive to my work flow. My wife is part time but sometimes has a meeting in the early afternoon. I’m telling her that if she can’t pick up the baby halfway through the day then we will need to leave her at daycare all day. But she’s afraid of leaving our daughter there for so long. What do we do!!! This is so frustrating.

Dude. You need to make it work. Block your diary. Make it known you have pickup on such and such days at x hour and make them respect that. This is what normal workers do.

Signed, another dude who was doing that shit 20 years ago. It's not that hard.

Also, quit whining. Man up already.

Did you even read? Not an end of day pickup - a middle of the workday pickup.

DP

So what? How far away is this day care? It can't be that far. Block the time. This isn't hard.

Watching an infant and working at the same time actually is very hard. Basically impossible to do both with the care they deserve.

Most day cares have a 3 to 1 caregiver ratio for infants. So he will likely have more attention turn they will get in care.

Do you have grandparents in pictures just to get the baby a little older?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friendly reminder OP,
Whatever you all decide, please ensure you have a back-up check on where the baby is at all times. Especially in the summer heat!

Try to have a set schedule and ask your daycare how they handle if the baby is not there during those schedule hours.

Very true. Don't forget her in your car. It happens to loving parents who never expected to forget their baby. They're just frazzled and juggling complex schedules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 months is very young for institutionalized care.

Stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:5 months is very young for institutionalized care.

Stop.

+1. OP ignore the people acting like this is anything other than a crazy request. They're rabid anti-daycare loons and not actually thinking about the reality of the situation.

[Anonymous]

Your wife should be a SAHM if she can't handle baby being in daycare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:5 months is very young for institutionalized care.

Stop.

It is very young for that kind of care. Just because a lot of people have to do it doesn’t make it any less true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:5 months is very young for institutionalized care.

Stop.

It is very young for that kind of care. Just because a lot of people have to do it doesn’t make it any less true.

Both my kids went to a federal agency day care. I saw two caregivers last month separately and they both remembered my kids names over a decade later. They were loving and kind and, frankly, more experienced. They taught my kids to drink from a cup, to potty train, to socialize with other kids. I have no complaints.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Makes no sense, The baby naps in the morning and the afternoon. That’s 4 hours minimum of her time there asleep.

What time is drop off?

Pick up from 1-3 just interrupts the nap

You could agree to a 4:00 pick up for a while.

Did u take paternity leave?

This right here. It’s hard to answer this question without knowing more about the family dynamic at play. Is the wife asking OP to show a willingness to appropriately put family ahead of work? Or, quite possibly struggling with transition and/or not truly comfortable with being a 2 working parent family? If OP didn’t take any leave or took it minimally, I strongly feel his wife is in the right here.

Kind of an aside but on the naps I never had a baby who napped well enough at 5 months to be reliably down in a crib for any stretch beyond 30 minutes…. Was this just my three kids?

Yes that’s odd … did they go to daycare?