Being slow faded :(

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back

OP here. Yes it is the complete lack of flirting and compliments. Its like I am being friend zoned. No " I miss you" or "can;t wait to see you"

So odd...complete shift from how he was talking 2 weeks ago.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like someone else may have caught his eye. But maybe not. As others have said you should ask him what’s up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back

OP here. Yes it is the complete lack of flirting and compliments. Its like I am being friend zoned. No " I miss you" or "can;t wait to see you"

So odd...complete shift from how he was talking 2 weeks ago.

It’s not really that odd. It happens a lot.

It’s disappointing. But it’s a pretty common trajectory.

[Anonymous]

That sucks OP

Hows it going this evening?

Dont let it get to you, read about detachment online.

[Anonymous]

What on earth could you possibly have to talk about for 1-2 hours every night?

You must be a non stop manic chatterbox.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back

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This. Talking to him about the relationship will get you meaningless reassurances or outright avoidance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not try to ask what happened. It’s not just the calls but him no longer flirting, complimenting you that’s problematic.
In such cases I mirror the man’s behavior and resume actively dating others. Men always sense your shifted focus. He will disappear completely or actively come back to get you back

OP here. Yes it is the complete lack of flirting and compliments. Its like I am being friend zoned. No " I miss you" or "can;t wait to see you"

So odd...complete shift from how he was talking 2 weeks ago.

Asking him what happened would make you look like a beggar for affection. Don’t do it. Be polite, playful but stop expecting or initiating texts and avoid long calls. Actively go out with other men.

A man who is interested will make it clear to you. If you are not sure about his feelings it’s time to move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s just not that into you.

I have dated busy men who find time for you. It is so easy to blow you off. My now husband used to want to see me (have sex) everyday. None of this slow fade talking and texting.

I think the problem with dating these days is that people are always still on the dating apps. It is so easy to become interested in someone else.

I’d been reading DCUM for years while I was married and believed when people said that everybody is dating multiple partners, at least for the first several months. After I separated and created a dating profile, I assumed that every man I meet isn’t serious about me yet and is dating others. Therefore I didn’t consider having a committed relationship with anyone from the start, and I wasn’t even emotionally available at that time. I ended up hurting several men because of that. They were so excited to meet me, and some of them made it clear right away that they want to date me exclusively and got very upset and disappointed when I told them that it wouldn’t be possible.

I ended up dating one man casually, and when I became ready for a real relationship, I created a new profile and decided that I’m not going to meet with a man unless he is a good candidate for a long-term relationship with me. When I met my boyfriend for the first time, at the end of the first date he made it clear that he wants an exclusive relationship with me, and in 4 days he asked me to become his girlfriend. We deleted our dating profiles and are now sharing locations - have nothing to hide. So no, not everyone is always on the dating apps.

Congratulations? You have a boyfriend after getting divorced.

OP’s man’s attention is elsewhere. Maybe dating apps. Maybe coworker. Maybe he just doesn’t like OP.

[Anonymous]

Well considering that you two are currently exclusive, I wouldn’t assume things are over until he tells you they are.

Maybe he met someone else?
Do you know if he is still active on the apps??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well considering that you two are currently exclusive, I wouldn’t assume things are over until he tells you they are.

Maybe he met someone else?
Do you know if he is still active on the apps??

Show me a man go refuses a second P himself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s just not that into you.

I have dated busy men who find time for you. It is so easy to blow you off. My now husband used to want to see me (have sex) everyday. None of this slow fade talking and texting.

I think the problem with dating these days is that people are always still on the dating apps. It is so easy to become interested in someone else.

I’d been reading DCUM for years while I was married and believed when people said that everybody is dating multiple partners, at least for the first several months. After I separated and created a dating profile, I assumed that every man I meet isn’t serious about me yet and is dating others. Therefore I didn’t consider having a committed relationship with anyone from the start, and I wasn’t even emotionally available at that time. I ended up hurting several men because of that. They were so excited to meet me, and some of them made it clear right away that they want to date me exclusively and got very upset and disappointed when I told them that it wouldn’t be possible.

I ended up dating one man casually, and when I became ready for a real relationship, I created a new profile and decided that I’m not going to meet with a man unless he is a good candidate for a long-term relationship with me. When I met my boyfriend for the first time, at the end of the first date he made it clear that he wants an exclusive relationship with me, and in 4 days he asked me to become his girlfriend. We deleted our dating profiles and are now sharing locations - have nothing to hide. So no, not everyone is always on the dating apps.

Congratulations? You have a boyfriend after getting divorced.

OP’s man’s attention is elsewhere. Maybe dating apps. Maybe coworker. Maybe he just doesn’t like OP.

PP here. I’m actually not divorced and have both husband and boyfriend, but I live about 400 miles away from DH and 12 miles away from my boyfriend, so my boyfriend is ok with that.

I posted because I don’t want other clueless women to believe that everyone on the apps is dating or looking to date multiple partners. I met some men who haven’t dated anyone for a year or two, and it’s hard for me to tell why because they are good looking, tall, and have well paid professional jobs.