Being slow faded :(
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Anonymous
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Seeing this guy casually since January. But then I was talking to other guys too as we would meet here and there for dinner or coffee. In late March we became exclusive. I stopped talking to other men and paused my dating profiles. We meet twice a week and chat or talk on the phone daily; he calls me in the evening where we talk for 1-2 hours.
However since I would say the past two weeks I sense an energy shift. He doesn’t call every evening anymore but texts me good morning and good night. We last hung out over the weekend and things seemed…okay. He has stopped obviously flirting with me and complimenting me. I don’t know whether to allow the slow fade and to get back on the apps or attempt to address the issue. |
Anonymous
| Jesus, if you like the guy address it. He could be stressed and not up for a 1 hr phone call. He could just be over that every single night and is tired. If you want a healthy relationship, you need to communicate, not bury your head in the sand. |
Anonymous
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It's hard to sustain 7-14 hours on the phone every week.
If you like him, address it. And have a conversation about how much phone time you each want/need. |
Anonymous
| You need to grow up a bit |
Anonymous
| Is the, ah, intimacy still good? |
Anonymous
Yes. |
Anonymous
+1000 Use your words. If you're not mature enough to have a conversation with the person you're dating about where you're at then you're not mature enough to be dating. |
Anonymous
| how is sex, OP? are you keeping him happy in bed? I think he is sensing that you are too much work and may be focused somewhere else. |
Anonymous
Op shouldn’t be having sex with him if she’s not married to him |
Anonymous
| He met and already sleeps with someone new. Men never fully give up looking around it’s always another woman |
Anonymous
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Talking 1-2 hours a night is a LOT. Eventually that will dwindle.
Ask him what's up! |
Anonymous
| If I needed or required my last boyfriend (now my husband) to talk on the phone every night for an hour or two he would not be my husband. |
Anonymous
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That sounds exhausting
-dw |
Anonymous
| He has bagged the deer. He no longer has to work at his relationship with you. |
Anonymous
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Yeah.. He’s dating & prob sleeping with someone else. Anyways, have a convo with him Accept the slow fade or You end it |