40+ casual meetups?

[Anonymous]

Wow, dating sounds like a sh!tshow. I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

I’m a 40+ nurse in an ER and I meet many eligible men. I usually look like hell during a shift but men must think nurses are sex starved and yes, sometimes we are. Periodically I will take one up on an offer and we have a fun time for a while but my life is so busy a LTR is not in the cards. FWIW single EMTs, often 10+ years younger than me, are amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where does one go online or in person for casual meetups without commitment? I’m an elder millennial going through a divorce (separated over a year). I was married very young and never participated in modern dating like tinder, etc.

Looking to put myself out there in the most non-commital way as I navigate what life after divorce looks/feels like.

Side q: Am I generalizing or are most older men just looking for young and hot and I’ll be looked over as used goods.

Why would you marry at a “very young age?”

[Anonymous]

Stay away from men. You'll be happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40+ nurse in an ER and I meet many eligible men. I usually look like hell during a shift but men must think nurses are sex starved and yes, sometimes we are. Periodically I will take one up on an offer and we have a fun time for a while but my life is so busy a LTR is not in the cards. FWIW single EMTs, often 10+ years younger than me, are amazing.

Welcome UTIs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anecdote time.

The father of one of my son's team mates got separated (in Arlington) and got on the apps like three weeks later after bailing on 'traditional' methods of networking, grocery store small talk etc, and he slept with 32 women in two months.

He said is was zero effort, mid 40s, recent divorcees who were more than happy to sleep with him within an hour of meeting him.

Said it was actually quite depressing

Yes, it is very common in their 40s to find a lot of partners to sleep with. Not an issue at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40+ nurse in an ER and I meet many eligible men. I usually look like hell during a shift but men must think nurses are sex starved and yes, sometimes we are. Periodically I will take one up on an offer and we have a fun time for a while but my life is so busy a LTR is not in the cards. FWIW single EMTs, often 10+ years younger than me, are amazing.

why you don't have time for LTR? I have seen that with a lot of nurses in their 40s. is it the emotional draining of working as a nurse or physical exhaustion?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, all of us 40+ divorcees are "whores" if you will, both men and women. We don't have a lot of time in the schedule and lots of needs to fit in.

This. Also don't get this "ooh so depressing that women sleep with me" talk. Women have usually had unfulfilled s*x for DECADES before their marriage is over. Add to that that the older generation women married quite inexperienced and obviously women want to have some "fun" after getting out. It helps if they're approaching menopause and don't have to worry about pregnancy either.

why they had it unfulfilled sex? They must be getting something else that was worth to stay. They made their choice and didn't do anyone any favors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40+ nurse in an ER and I meet many eligible men. I usually look like hell during a shift but men must think nurses are sex starved and yes, sometimes we are. Periodically I will take one up on an offer and we have a fun time for a while but my life is so busy a LTR is not in the cards. FWIW single EMTs, often 10+ years younger than me, are amazing.

why you don't have time for LTR? I have seen that with a lot of nurses in their 40s. is it the emotional draining of working as a nurse or physical exhaustion?

Nurses are viewed as promiscuous and are around rich doctors/med students. There aren't many men willing to deal with that for a LTR.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40+ nurse in an ER and I meet many eligible men. I usually look like hell during a shift but men must think nurses are sex starved and yes, sometimes we are. Periodically I will take one up on an offer and we have a fun time for a while but my life is so busy a LTR is not in the cards. FWIW single EMTs, often 10+ years younger than me, are amazing.

Welcome UTIs!

The nurses I know are very astute at dealing with partners, unlike many women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, dating sounds like a sh!tshow. I'm so sorry.

It felt that way at first. Like most things in life, when you learn what to expect and learn how to conduct yourself, it can be great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, dating sounds like a sh!tshow. I'm so sorry.

Its like test driving cars. Quick enjoyment but not saddled with the bs when you're done.

[Anonymous]

Happily married 47 year old male here. I almost never even notice young women anymore. I primarily only notice women late 30s and up! My wife is 44 and I just can’t get enough even after 21 years! I’m actually a bit concerned about my seeming non interest in beautiful twenty somethings, but I can’t help it. So don’t worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Happily married 47 year old male here. I almost never even notice young women anymore. I primarily only notice women late 30s and up! My wife is 44 and I just can’t get enough even after 21 years! I’m actually a bit concerned about my seeming non interest in beautiful twenty somethings, but I can’t help it. So don’t worry.

Maybe (hopefully!) it's harder to be attracted to someone who could be your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, dating sounds like a sh!tshow. I'm so sorry.

This thread is the Ghost of Christmas Future.