Friends, even acquaintances, who want a Mother’s Day Report

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand the "what did you do this weekend" every.single.weekend. Once in a while its ok to ask, but a text every Friday of the same question like they're comparing their plans to yours? Or to make you feel like you don't do enough. It's odd.

Huh. I often ask what people did over the weekend even though I usually do nothing or the same thing every weekend. I'm just making conversation and not judging or comparing. If someone said, "Nothing, just stayed in and got takeout" I'd reply "me too! Isn't it nice?" And if they did something more exciting I'd listen happily because I am not jealous, I don't want exciting or busy weekends.

[Anonymous]

I agree. There are people asking what you are going to do today who typically never ask. It’s such a made up holiday. There seems to be more comparison with the advent of social media and text messsges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. There are people asking what you are going to do today who typically never ask. It’s such a made up holiday. There seems to be more comparison with the advent of social media and text messsges.

Exactly this! These same people never randomly text on a weekend during a typical time of year, but all of a sudden, it’s Mother’s Day and you care what I’m “up to”? Frankly, I don’t care what you are up to. I’m enjoying my day, and indeed turned off my phone entirely after incessant group chat yammering.

[Anonymous]

It must really suck to be surrounded by caring, interested people.

Y'all are unreal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It must really suck to be surrounded by caring, interested people.

Y'all are unreal.

That’s just it. They don’t care and they are not really interested or else they would be concerned on other days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand the "what did you do this weekend" every.single.weekend. Once in a while its ok to ask, but a text every Friday of the same question like they're comparing their plans to yours? Or to make you feel like you don't do enough. It's odd.

Huh. I often ask what people did over the weekend even though I usually do nothing or the same thing every weekend. I'm just making conversation and not judging or comparing. If someone said, "Nothing, just stayed in and got takeout" I'd reply "me too! Isn't it nice?" And if they did something more exciting I'd listen happily because I am not jealous, I don't want exciting or busy weekends.

But honestly: why do you even ask? If you want to chat, pick up the phone or make plans with someone. All this incessant, meaningless texting is nothing short of annoying.

Would I be up for going out for coffee sometime? Yes. Would I be OK with the occasional catch-up phone call? Sure. An invite to your holiday party, that’s amazing. But yammery texts, no. I just ignore them. I hate small talk and I hate digital small talk even more. I don’t care if you went to a craft fair or ordered pizza. I’m assuming you’re living your life, I’m living mine.

[Anonymous]

I've gotten exactly text messages wishing me a happy mother's day.

Two of those texts are from my middle school children who are at their dads house for the weekend.

I've done absolutely nothing today and had no one ask me what I've done. This level of prying is kind of weird.

Maybe it's time to get some new friends and/or associates!

[Anonymous]

* Exactly 6 text messages

[Anonymous]

Some people (usually either older or attention-seeking) don’t get the difference between social media and texting. If they posted on social media wishing everyone a Happy Mother’s Day and saying, I’d love to know what my friends and family are up to today, they’d get paragraphs from other attention-needers.

Just use social media! Leave people alone on text.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why choose the worst of all ways to look at things?

+1 DCUM is full of depressed, unhappy people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why choose the worst of all ways to look at things?

+1 DCUM is full of depressed, unhappy people.

+2

Happy Mother’s Day, everyone!!!

[Anonymous]

I'm 46 and have never had this experience. My friends and I mutually wish each other Happy Mother's Day, by individual text, and do not ask for particulars. If a friend shares, then that's great. But no one asks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand the "what did you do this weekend" every.single.weekend. Once in a while its ok to ask, but a text every Friday of the same question like they're comparing their plans to yours? Or to make you feel like you don't do enough. It's odd.

Huh. I often ask what people did over the weekend even though I usually do nothing or the same thing every weekend. I'm just making conversation and not judging or comparing. If someone said, "Nothing, just stayed in and got takeout" I'd reply "me too! Isn't it nice?" And if they did something more exciting I'd listen happily because I am not jealous, I don't want exciting or busy weekends.

But honestly: why do you even ask? If you want to chat, pick up the phone or make plans with someone. All this incessant, meaningless texting is nothing short of annoying.

Would I be up for going out for coffee sometime? Yes. Would I be OK with the occasional catch-up phone call? Sure. An invite to your holiday party, that’s amazing. But yammery texts, no. I just ignore them. I hate small talk and I hate digital small talk even more. I don’t care if you went to a craft fair or ordered pizza. I’m assuming you’re living your life, I’m living mine.

This. I miss when people actually called each other to chat and have real conversations but using texts to compare plans is stupid to me.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it’s an awkward question. We don’t do much for it but I’m not bitter - it’s just our way. I don’t want gifts. Restaurants are too busy to make brunch or something feel any more special than a random meal out.

DH is actually injured at the moment so I still ran the errands and cut the kids fruit and made lunch and did laundry, when normally I would play the Mother’s Day card and say no. (That part is a little annoying).