Friends, even acquaintances, who want a Mother’s Day Report

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I genuinely don’t even understand texting Happy Mother’s Day to anyone who isn’t your own mom, maybe your MIL, mayyyyybe your sister or SIL. But other than that, leave me alone. I get flooded with texts and find it to be annoying. I even got a text from a male coworker who left our company *six years ago.* Just no.

I got a text from the former high school janitor who helped me put on a PTA-sponsored craft fair 3 years ago. He's an older guy in poor health. He texts at Christmas too. I texted back a greeting last December which is how I found out he doesn't work at the school anymore.

[Anonymous]

I find today extra annoying. It’s the worst that it’s after teacher appreciation week and I’m a teacher. It’s all too much. What I really want is nothing.

The texts have been going since early this morning. I reply “Happy Mother’s Day to you too” to everyone and leave it at that. Even the male coworkers. Why are some of them texting?

I just got off the phone with my mom and she was all offended that we aren’t doing more here and she thought my family should be doing more. I want a quiet day of nothing. I don’t want to go out to eat. It’s the same conversation, every single year. Next year I am going to tell her we are going out to a restaurant for dinner.

[Anonymous]

I have a very common first name and routinely receive texts I’m sure are meant for another person with the same first name.

This morning as I tried to sleep in later than usual, my phone started pinging with rapid fire Happy Mother’s Day greetings from men who are extended family members (at best) and coworkers. Why???

PS - It’s never okay to text someone early on Sunday morning. Never.

[Anonymous]

It feels so judgy to be asked what my Mother’s Day plans are or what did I receive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels so judgy to be asked what my Mother’s Day plans are or what did I receive?

Just tell them you and your family spent the day volunteering at a soup kitchen…and then you win.

Bonus points if you say your husband surprised you by cooking dinner and announcing he booked a fabulous trip to X for the two of you in the coming weeks/months.

[Anonymous]

Op, they are giving you the opportunity to talk about yourself. Most people love doing that. Many talk too much and bore people. But you are someone they care about -- so they are letting you know they welcome your thoughts, you talking about your day. Why not choose to view it in a good way?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, they are giving you the opportunity to talk about yourself. Most people love doing that. Many talk too much and bore people. But you are someone they care about -- so they are letting you know they welcome your thoughts, you talking about your day. Why not choose to view it in a good way?

They are “giving you the opportunity to talk about yourself”…so you will then ask about them and they can talk about themselves. Let’s be honest.

[Anonymous]

why choose the worst of all ways to look at things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why choose the worst of all ways to look at things?

Why choose to always, constantly be seeking attention?

[Anonymous]

In the group chats I'm in, it would probably be a competition for who had the least Instagram-worthy mother's Day, if we bothered to have that discussion, which we haven't so far this year. It would be laughing in commiseration. It's not universally about trying to be the best.

[Anonymous]

It’s goofy anymore. Everyone is just passing around blinking HMD messages. Men, coworkers, friends, etc. who you are no mother, too, are wishing HMD and asking what you will be doing. Too much pressure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I genuinely don’t even understand texting Happy Mother’s Day to anyone who isn’t your own mom, maybe your MIL, mayyyyybe your sister or SIL. But other than that, leave me alone. I get flooded with texts and find it to be annoying. I even got a text from a male coworker who left our company *six years ago.* Just no.

I don’t know, in my tight circle of three, we always remind each other how thankful we are for each other on the motherhood journey because it is not easy and they have been my rock at times, vice versa.

This. I send a HMD text to a handful of close friends because I know how hard they work at being moms and I want them to know I see it, including the stuff their kids and sometimes even spouses just don't see or appreciate. It's not performative. I truly appreciate then as mothers.

I would never send a text to a random colleague or acquaintance about mother's Day, I don't know how they feel about it or what their situation is.

No!!! Tell me you didn’t really just text HMD for the love of god!!!! Please!!!!!

[Anonymous]

I can't stand the "what did you do this weekend" every.single.weekend. Once in a while its ok to ask, but a text every Friday of the same question like they're comparing their plans to yours? Or to make you feel like you don't do enough. It's odd.

[Anonymous]

I've never understood this. It's not even part way through the afternoon on mother's day. At least wait until Monday for "a report."

I miss pre social media mothers days, where people just did their own thing and didn't share ever single thing or send texts for every minor holiday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I genuinely don’t even understand texting Happy Mother’s Day to anyone who isn’t your own mom, maybe your MIL, mayyyyybe your sister or SIL. But other than that, leave me alone. I get flooded with texts and find it to be annoying. I even got a text from a male coworker who left our company *six years ago.* Just no.

I don’t know, in my tight circle of three, we always remind each other how thankful we are for each other on the motherhood journey because it is not easy and they have been my rock at times, vice versa.

This. I send a HMD text to a handful of close friends because I know how hard they work at being moms and I want them to know I see it, including the stuff their kids and sometimes even spouses just don't see or appreciate. It's not performative. I truly appreciate then as mothers.

I would never send a text to a random colleague or acquaintance about mother's Day, I don't know how they feel about it or what their situation is.

No!!! Tell me you didn’t really just text HMD for the love of god!!!! Please!!!!!

No I would spell it out I'm a text but I didn't feel like doing it here because everyone knows what I'm talking about. Calm down.