s/o Asking for money for teens tacky?

[Anonymous]

Both my sister and I went on ski trips with friends and absolutely paid for ski tickets, meals on the mountain, rentals etc. My sister went out West with her friend and my parents also paid for her flights. I don’t know but I don’t think they contributed to gas, condo rentals etc, but they may have.

We took a teammate of my daughter’s to a tournament last year. It’s different because they get along but don’t hang out usually. We paid for an extra room and split the cost (because we got more space too) and the child had a credit card and paid for meals. We took the kids out for ice cream and I paid obviously. The mother offered to pay for gas, but I declined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have a similar situation. We have a house near a ski resort where we go all winter on the weekends. My son is 9 and is a very social kid. We would be happy to bring a friend along sometimesbut the friend would need a lift ticket for 2 days, rentals and possibly a lesson. (for most friends) The lift tickets for 2 days is close to 200 plus rentals 40. We have season passes.

We are happy to feed and house the second kid but is it tacky to invite but then ask for the parents to cover the lift ticket and rental? My gut says yes, but I would like to let my son invite some friends this year but 300 per weekend would add up quickly. (I'm adding food at the mountain in there plus whatever incidentals)

Wow, I guess that’s one way to ostracize your kid.

“We own a vacation home worth probably close to a million, but this weekend’s $300 is where we feel the pinch.”

I’d understand if you were bringing the same guest every single weekend, but for the friend, it’s likely a one or two time thing.

You are inviting them for your kid’s entertainment, and probably your own benefit, so you can have some couple time.

You don’t know their budget or whether they inherited the house and work for non profits. The house may still belong to the grandparents. OP seems kind and reasonable to me. No need to go on the attack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't invite anyone if you're not paying for the entire trip. That's just weird and embarrassing.

Do you ski?

NP. Yes, the whole world is aware how expensive skiing is. OP owns a ski home, she’ll manage.

People who ski know how this works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a similar situation. We have a house near a ski resort where we go all winter on the weekends. My son is 9 and is a very social kid. We would be happy to bring a friend along sometimesbut the friend would need a lift ticket for 2 days, rentals and possibly a lesson. (for most friends) The lift tickets for 2 days is close to 200 plus rentals 40. We have season passes.

We are happy to feed and house the second kid but is it tacky to invite but then ask for the parents to cover the lift ticket and rental? My gut says yes, but I would like to let my son invite some friends this year but 300 per weekend would add up quickly. (I'm adding food at the mountain in there plus whatever incidentals)

State what they'd need UP FRONT and be clear: "Jenny will need x for lift tickets, etc." Then they can decide. We made this mistake bringing a friend skiing. And the kid showed up with no equipment, no money. I was shocked but -Fine. We paid. But don't be dumb like we were.

[Anonymous]

I guess the context matters.

If a parent invites my kid to their slope-side home in Aspen, it would probably be tacky for them to ask for $$$s for lift tickets and equipment.

If a parent invites my kid to their 3BR house in Davis, WV (OP was clear they live "near" a ski resort...not slope-side), I would expect to buy my kid lift tickets and rentals...and be very appreciative they are taking my kid on this trip.

Most homes near a ski resort for DMV ski resorts are not fancy or expensive homes.

[Anonymous]

OP here. PP^^ nailed it. Our house is in Davis, WV. It is about 10 minutes from the ski resorts.

[Anonymous]

Your gut is right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a similar situation. We have a house near a ski resort where we go all winter on the weekends. My son is 9 and is a very social kid. We would be happy to bring a friend along sometimesbut the friend would need a lift ticket for 2 days, rentals and possibly a lesson. (for most friends) The lift tickets for 2 days is close to 200 plus rentals 40. We have season passes.

We are happy to feed and house the second kid but is it tacky to invite but then ask for the parents to cover the lift ticket and rental? My gut says yes, but I would like to let my son invite some friends this year but 300 per weekend would add up quickly. (I'm adding food at the mountain in there plus whatever incidentals)

That's way to much to ask another parent to pay. I would be annoyed and say no and hope you didn't ask my child first.