Is ‘networking’ really a factor in private school decisions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Using your kids school for your own social gain is weird.

Whatever. It’s part of the great American tradition of social climbing.

I’m not entirely comfortable with it myself, but people are and always have been obsessed with getting ahead.

And whats funny is all of the private schools (and Ivies) are well aware of it and have used that class insecurity to their advantage.

It’s all part of the same slimy game.

[Anonymous]

The thinking of insecure people. Send your kid to study and focus on the most important. Trying to network won’t get anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

Aside from some of the hyperbole, this lines up with my experience at a prestigious boarding school in the 90's. I was UMC and really did not comprehend fully the level of wealth and the social networks of a certain group of the uber-wealthy kids. They all kind of knew each other even though they grew up in different places like Palm Beach, Paris, and Central Park West. I realized later it was even more than a country club type of thing -- it was an old money social circle thing. There was no way to truly break into it. Those kids had "friends" who were UMC but they were friends during the school year only. The friendships didn't endure after high school. And because a lot of those kids did not move on to typical careers (they don't really have to work but some of them "start companies") they were actually not even all that helpful from a networking perspective. More helpful in that sense were the UMC kids who ended up at top schools and are now heads of whatever at various banks or in politics.

Most of the kids who came from the old money circles were very polite and appropriate and would never have come out and said any of the above. Except for one guy who was quite clear once to a UMC friend of mine that he could sleep with (not the more explicit phrase he used) girls like her but he could never date her or marry her because it wouldn't fly in his social circle.

Understand, that old money doesn't really carry much weight anymore. The new money that has been created in just the last 30 years involves 100x more people and they have like 500x more wealth. I mean, there is a tech company founded three years ago by three MIT dropouts and Grok may buy it for $60BN...each of the founders will be worth more than the entire Rockefeller family is today.

It may be just as hard to break into this group, but the world of the ultra-wealthy is dramatically different from your day.

Yes. It's not really about the money itself. It's about where the money has brought your family to this point. It's where your grandparents and parents went to grew up and went to college and socialized with that brings an expanded network and connections. It's knowing the same types of people. Now, that may have changed at this point. When I was in college, coming from a private school in Manhattan, with parents who attended HYP/seven-sisters and having gone to tennis camp and spending summers at a private club all gave me cred to hang with the other private school kids from across the country who knew people I knew or whose parents knew mine.

Now, a good friend of mine went to Harvard and her network with the old money crowd going into there was 10x mine and she couldn't break into the group that included the international jet set kids. That's a whole 'nother level/

"Couldn't break into" -- was that like an aspiration or something?

What an odd question to pose in a thread about people sending their kids to private schools simply because they aspire to expand their network.

DP. I agree - it sounds as though you or your friend are trying to break in? Many of us think that sort of thinking and networking regarding friendships or classmates if just gross. That is the difference - I would never try to network at my kids schools. I seek to attract similar like-minded parent freinds. The parents networking tend to be shallow and users in our experiences.

There are definitely people on this board who think this way. So many college posts about how Ivy schools are the gateway to marrying way way up. Lots of “peer group” and “marriage opportunities” posts. Ick.

[Anonymous]

All these posts are viewing networking through the lense of MC parents hoping to network with say ultra-wealthy parents at the school...but ignoring that wealthy trying to network with other wealthy is definitely a consideration.

The WSJ did an article on some SV private school about how many deals happened because parents met on the playground...Parent A sold their company to Parent B or Parent C's VC firm invested in Parent D's company, etc. It was kind of well known that parents wanted to get their kids into the school because of this kind of networking.

There was a story of how Dave Grohl sent his kids to some private school in LA that had tons of famous kids of actors, musicians, etc. and he met one of the KISS guys there and then they did a collaboration.

I am sure some of the DC movers-and-shakers likely will only consider a select group of private schools for their kids for similar reasons. It has probably little to do with what's "best" for their kid vs. they want to know there is a critical mass of other parents at the school in their same ecosystem.

[Anonymous]

Good luck being part of the jet set and ending up marrying a social climber. What a life would that be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

Spoken like a true striver.

What you are describing is not networking it’s opportunism.

You would totally be that mom at the parent social hoping for a “few minutes” of my time to talk about your organic skincare line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

Spoken like a true striver.

What you are describing is not networking it’s opportunism.

You would totally be that mom at the parent social hoping for a “few minutes” of my time to talk about your organic skincare line.

Nobody wants you at those socials, you are truly an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

Spoken like a true striver.

What you are describing is not networking it’s opportunism.

You would totally be that mom at the parent social hoping for a “few minutes” of my time to talk about your organic skincare line.

Nobody wants you at those socials, you are truly an idiot.

And you sound like a real gem. Hopefully that bad attitude of your’s isn’t a genetic trait.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

Spoken like a true striver.

What you are describing is not networking it’s opportunism.

You would totally be that mom at the parent social hoping for a “few minutes” of my time to talk about your organic skincare line.

Nobody wants you at those socials, you are truly an idiot.

And you sound like a real gem. Hopefully that bad attitude of your’s isn’t a genetic trait.

Your gene pool is more like a swamp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

Spoken like a true striver.

What you are describing is not networking it’s opportunism.

You would totally be that mom at the parent social hoping for a “few minutes” of my time to talk about your organic skincare line.

Nobody wants you at those socials, you are truly an idiot.

And you sound like a real gem. Hopefully that bad attitude of your’s isn’t a genetic trait.

Your gene pool is more like a swamp.

I’m sorry your skincare line didn’t work out. Maybe you can chat up a few folks waiting in line at the Giant. You know, NETWORKING!

[Anonymous]

Note to self: this is a spicy question apparently 🫠 do not ask at dinner parties📝

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

Spoken like a true striver.

What you are describing is not networking it’s opportunism.

You would totally be that mom at the parent social hoping for a “few minutes” of my time to talk about your organic skincare line.

Nobody wants you at those socials, you are truly an idiot.

And you sound like a real gem. Hopefully that bad attitude of your’s isn’t a genetic trait.

Your gene pool is more like a swamp.

I’m sorry your skincare line didn’t work out. Maybe you can chat up a few folks waiting in line at the Giant. You know, NETWORKING!

My pet dog is more clever than you. Go run along now.

[Anonymous]

Dessert?🍨 🚪💥

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please do not even consider this.

Just because your kid sits next to the kid of a Master of the Universe in Chem 101 doesn’t mean your kid is in that circle.

In some cases these networks have been built over generations through marriage and business.

Their networking does not take place in a secondary school - it happens in private clubs and exotic locales where they all congregate.

Also you only get out of a network what you put in. A guy worth $100 billion is not looking to a single digit millionaire to add to his network. Same goes for his kid.

A network is not built on proximity. And other than an education, proximity is all a private school has to offer.

What you said there just doesn't match reality. The majority of my kid's friends all attend the same private school. The annual alumni events are pretty impressive too, bringing them back to campus. The majority of these families have a net worth under $100 million so talking about billions makes you seem extremely unfamiliar with the area.

I was using “billions” as a hyperbolic example.

Forgive me for not being familiar with the exact net worth of every private school family in the Washington DC area.

And I believe the original poster asked about networking opportunities not whether alumni events are well attended and “impressive”.

Networking is the whole point of alumni events. I suspect you are not playing with a full deck of cards.

I don’t think you even own a deck cards.

No one is attending alumni events looking to make business deals or expand their social circle. Similar to your posts, it reeks of desperation.

You don't understand how networking happens. You bump into another parent, a former classmate, etc. somewhere and find out you can help each other through some mutual interest. This definitely happens at alumni events. At colleges, private schools, country clubs, etc.

Spoken like a true striver.

What you are describing is not networking it’s opportunism.

You would totally be that mom at the parent social hoping for a “few minutes” of my time to talk about your organic skincare line.

Nobody wants you at those socials, you are truly an idiot.

And you sound like a real gem. Hopefully that bad attitude of your’s isn’t a genetic trait.

Your gene pool is more like a swamp.

I’m sorry your skincare line didn’t work out. Maybe you can chat up a few folks waiting in line at the Giant. You know, NETWORKING!

My pet dog is more clever than you. Go run along now.

Perhaps he is, but the real question is does he N E T W O R K. Like is he at the dog park pitching his idea for a doggie MLM? Does he have his insta handle printed on his collar? I mean there just oh so many opportunities!

Anyways, I’m going to drop this now, I’m sure you have to go somewhere and N E T W O R K. The carwash perhaps? Or are you one of those parents that thinks that going to pick up will get them to the next level?