Do your friends remember your wedding anniversary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it's a friend's birthday, everyone is happy that they've lived another year. Celebrate!

When it's a couple's anniversary, the rest of us don't truly know what's going on with their relationship. If they're going through a rough patch, a "happy anniversary" note isn't going to help and might even be upsetting. If they're happy in their marriage, they don't need me to tell them that.

I hadn't told anyone that my spouse left and did receive a "happy anniversary" message on FB. We shared an anniversary date, so it wasn't so weird. I wanted the person to know that I appreciated their thoughts, but it was sad and awkward. I didn't want to make them feel bad, but I also wasn't broadcasting my unfortunate news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh no. You are going to struggle to keep friends with these types of expectations.

Yeah this is crazy to me. Do you not have anything else going on in your life OP? The bride gets one day to be the center of the world and that's it.

My parents and in-laws always wish us. With friends if photo memories pop up on Facebook I might comment. Certainly no obligation. Besides your own spouse everyone has moved on. If someone tells me it's was their anniversary recently etc of course I will wish them then.

[Anonymous]

Only my BFFs anniversary. She got married on Feb 14, 2000 so it's an easy date to remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

How old are you? Because frankly you sound to young to even be married.

Lol in my 30s.

Again. This thread has taught me to lower my friendship standards a bit. Lol lesson learned.

Funny thing just happened. My friend's job anniversary reminder just showed up on LinkedIn. I usually comment on these posts..happy job anniversary! Now, I won't because her 6 years at her job is not about me and I don't need to make it awkward. What if she hates her job? See I can learn. Lol

Friendship standards? That's an odd way to think about it.

Just look and see if coworkers are also wishing happy anniversary and if they are, join in. Note a big deal either way because there's very little effort, you are already logged in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. It would make me feel weird and pressured to remember theirs even though I could not care less.

I don't even remember my own, so no.

[Anonymous]

Only my family members acknowledge my wedding anniversary now. In the initial years after the wedding, friends who attended would remember but they have so much going on now with life and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

How old are you? Because frankly you sound to young to even be married.

Lol in my 30s.

Again. This thread has taught me to lower my friendship standards a bit. Lol lesson learned.

Funny thing just happened. My friend's job anniversary reminder just showed up on LinkedIn. I usually comment on these posts..happy job anniversary! Now, I won't because her 6 years at her job is not about me and I don't need to make it awkward. What if she hates her job? See I can learn. Lol

I was going to write "Nothing worse than a self-LOLer," but expecting anyone but your spouse to remember is worse.

[Anonymous]

The only friend’s anniversary I remember is because another friend’s child died on the same day. Sorry, OP. No one remembers that these things unless there is a significant reason to.

[Anonymous]

No.
Nor do I remember theirs.

[Anonymous]

No!!! Ffs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes esp the wedding party

The wedding party? Are you over 30? Bridesmaid responsibilities end after the wedding is over.

Several of my bridesmaids send a text on our August anniversary. It’s nice. I’m 47 and we all live scattered around the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

How old are you? Because frankly you sound to young to even be married.

Lol in my 30s.

Again. This thread has taught me to lower my friendship standards a bit. Lol lesson learned.

Funny thing just happened. My friend's job anniversary reminder just showed up on LinkedIn. I usually comment on these posts..happy job anniversary! Now, I won't because her 6 years at her job is not about me and I don't need to make it awkward. What if she hates her job? See I can learn. Lol

Separate from your age, you really need to work on your passive-aggressive tendencies.

Also, anyone (but particularly a grown-ass adult) who uses "LOL" three times in one post is a frivolous nitwit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes esp the wedding party

The wedding party? Are you over 30? Bridesmaid responsibilities end after the wedding is over.

Several of my bridesmaids send a text on our August anniversary. It’s nice. I’m 47 and we all live scattered around the country.

Of course it's nice. No one said it isn't. But it's neither an obligation or a friendship meter, which is how OP views it.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I don’t expect it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

How old are you? Because frankly you sound to young to even be married.

Lol in my 30s.

Again. This thread has taught me to lower my friendship standards a bit. Lol lesson learned.

Funny thing just happened. My friend's job anniversary reminder just showed up on LinkedIn. I usually comment on these posts..happy job anniversary! Now, I won't because her 6 years at her job is not about me and I don't need to make it awkward. What if she hates her job? See I can learn. Lol

Separate from your age, you really need to work on your passive-aggressive tendencies.

Also, anyone (but particularly a grown-ass adult) who uses "LOL" three times in one post is a frivolous nitwit.

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