Do your friends remember your wedding anniversary?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. And I have really close friendships and have been a maid of honor twice and I'm good with birthdays. And I actually love anniversaries and I always give my husband a themed gift (this year is 14- Ivory!)

No expectations whatsoever that anyone remember my anniversary except my husband. This is a day that is about the two of you, it's not about anyone else.

[Anonymous]

My final thought is just think about how we celebrate -- birthdays are with our community so it makes sense to send each other messages, but my anniversary is always just celebrated between the two of us.

(Maaaaybe there is an exception for 50 with kids and grandkids).

But anniversaries are really not about your community at all.

[Anonymous]

No and I think it's a bit strange when people wish me happy anniversary. My 15th is coming up this year and I'm really excited about it, whereas I never really thought much about it before. It just finally seems like a big number and I'm so happy for our marriage and where we're at. I don't expect anyone to remember it other than our parents. And eventually I hope our kids notice our anniversaries, not for a present of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My final thought is just think about how we celebrate -- birthdays are with our community so it makes sense to send each other messages, but my anniversary is always just celebrated between the two of us.

(Maaaaybe there is an exception for 50 with kids and grandkids).

But anniversaries are really not about your community at all.

I think kids should acknowledge their parents anniversaries.

I've always made sure to acknowledge my parents and inlaws' anniversaries. My parents' 50th is coming up and I'm happy for them. The older I get, the happier I am that they're still married. They've helped each other through a lot of health issues that they would have otherwise had to rely on me for. Even an optometrist appt where they dilate your eyes needs another person to drive.

[Anonymous]

Facebook is the only way I remember friend birthdays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 30s.

Wow, didn't know this was normal and my expectations were too high. And I should probably stop telling my one friend Happy Anniversary.

Good to know! Thanks y'all.

You don't have to stop wishing your friend Happy Anniversary but it's not a realistic expectation that anyone except your spouse should remember yours.

[Anonymous]

Yes esp the wedding party

[Anonymous]

We got married over a holiday weekend and the only people who remember our anniversary are our parents.

[Anonymous]

If I see it as a post in FB I’ll respond to the post. Otherwise, no, absolutely not. My siblings and I don’t even wish each other on anniversaries.

[Anonymous]

Anniversaries are for the couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

How old are you? Because frankly you sound to young to even be married.

[Anonymous]

When it's a friend's birthday, everyone is happy that they've lived another year. Celebrate!

When it's a couple's anniversary, the rest of us don't truly know what's going on with their relationship. If they're going through a rough patch, a "happy anniversary" note isn't going to help and might even be upsetting. If they're happy in their marriage, they don't need me to tell them that.

[Anonymous]

I've not been wished a happy anniversary by anyone other than my husband and my mom , ever, except for the first anniversary when a few of my best friends sent a text, probably because i posted on FB that it was our first anniversary with a wedding photo of us so it prompted them to remember. this was 18 years ago. your anniversary is a celebration between you and your husband. not normal for friends to wish happy anniversary IME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes esp the wedding party

The wedding party? Are you over 30? Bridesmaid responsibilities end after the wedding is over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

How old are you? Because frankly you sound to young to even be married.

Lol in my 30s.

Again. This thread has taught me to lower my friendship standards a bit. Lol lesson learned.

Funny thing just happened. My friend's job anniversary reminder just showed up on LinkedIn. I usually comment on these posts..happy job anniversary! Now, I won't because her 6 years at her job is not about me and I don't need to make it awkward. What if she hates her job? See I can learn. Lol