Do your friends remember your wedding anniversary?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

You only have ONE friend who is married? Anyway, I'd change your expectations. I do have friends who will mention it, as will I, sometimes, but I would never expect it from anyone, including my bridesmaids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to let this go. No one cares about your anniversary. If anyone besides my husband remembered mine I’d be annoyed because I don’t want to feel obligated to remember theirs.
Also, grow up.

+1

This is like "make work" for friendships

[Anonymous]

Good lord. I feel sorry for your friends. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

You only have ONE friend who is married? Anyway, I'd change your expectations. I do have friends who will mention it, as will I, sometimes, but I would never expect it from anyone, including my bridesmaids.

Yup, 1 that is married.

One friend getting married this summer though. So it will be 2 soon.


Note to self: Remove upcoming friend's wedding anniversary from calendar. And don't end this post with LOL.

[Anonymous]

Been married for 13 years. A couple friends too but I assume it's like me, when it auto populates in my calendar. It would never cross my mind to care one way or Another. I find people like OP beyond exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

You only have ONE friend who is married? Anyway, I'd change your expectations. I do have friends who will mention it, as will I, sometimes, but I would never expect it from anyone, including my bridesmaids.

Yup, 1 that is married.

One friend getting married this summer though. So it will be 2 soon.


Note to self: Remove upcoming friend's wedding anniversary from calendar. And don't end this post with LOL.

Are you always this petulant? It is fine to celebrate your friend's anniversaries if you want to do so. It is not fine to expect others to do the same for you because it is not a common practice.

[Anonymous]

I barely remember my own anniversary! This is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

No. Nor do I expect them to.

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding? In my 40s, married 20 years and a couple if times I forgot my own anniversary and I have a happy marriage to a man I love. Can’t say I remember a single anniversary of a friend or family member and nobody in my entire circle except for my parents remembers mine. That’s totally normal!

[Anonymous]

No, that’s not a thing. What with my husband and I not being the center of the universe for absolutely anyone else.

[Anonymous]

No, I think I remembered my best friend's wedding with a card the first year because I was her MOH but not after. I always remembered my parents' anni but I grew up in their household. That is couples's territory and up to the two people involved to celebrate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes esp the wedding party

The wedding party? Are you over 30? Bridesmaid responsibilities end after the wedding is over.

Several of my bridesmaids send a text on our August anniversary. It’s nice. I’m 47 and we all live scattered around the country.

Of course it's nice. No one said it isn't. But it's neither an obligation or a friendship meter, which is how OP views it.

Looks like the OP was merely taking a survey, and had no expectations.
Most people are too busy with life, some people do, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my 30s.

Wow, didn't know this was normal and my expectations were too high. And I should probably stop telling my one friend Happy Anniversary.

Good to know! Thanks y'all.

If you want to wish someone a happy anniversary, then do it. No need to stop unless that makes them uncomfortable. At the same time, no need for you to expect your friends to return the sentiment if they simply don’t remember.

You are in your 30s, you are not in high school. This tit for tat attitude is immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

Uh, no. I don't even acknowledge family anniversaries. Unless I get invited to an anniversary party, or see something on SM, I don't note this sort of thing. I guess I never even expected other people to acknowledge it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After the first a year or two, my friends stopped sending the Happy Anniversary messages.

I feel some kind of way about it because I do send my one married friend a Happy Anniversary message every year.

I'm not expecting it from every guest of course, but you would think my bridesmaids would say something. I guess I'm just type A and put important dates on my calendar.

Lol I know they see it on Facebook memories because I see it every year when I log in. Even my family forgets to say it so I guess it's not just a friend thing. Every one is busy right? Lol oh well.

What is your experience?

The only one who needs to remember your anniversary is your spouse. Really. Everybody else is frosting on the cake. Chips in the cookies. Blackbird in the pie. etc. etc.