if your kid confesses before you find out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say your 16-yr-old was at a friend's house and got drunk. But she tells you before you find out from other parents, who found out when their kid came in stumbling and smelling of alcohol.

If you have a 'no lying' policy, how do you handle this type of situation differently than if you found out your kid had been drinking the harder way -- e.g., how the other parents found out or if you asked her and she lied and said "no"?

I'm trying to learn better how to handle this type of situation and would love to learn from others here.

Is this hypothetical? Did your kid text you to say "I'm drunk" before coming home?

[Anonymous]

"Thank you for telling me the truth. I'm very disappointed. And I understand young people do these things sometimes as they experiment. What did you learn?"

Start a dialog. Then:

"I'm going to need some time to think about this and decide what the appropriate consequences are."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Say your 16-yr-old was at a friend's house and got drunk. But she tells you before you find out from other parents, who found out when their kid came in stumbling and smelling of alcohol.

If you have a 'no lying' policy, how do you handle this type of situation differently than if you found out your kid had been drinking the harder way -- e.g., how the other parents found out or if you asked her and she lied and said "no"?

I'm trying to learn better how to handle this type of situation and would love to learn from others here.

Is this hypothetical? Did your kid text you to say "I'm drunk" before coming home?

I suspect the other kid shared that they got in trouble, but I didn't pry there.