Would you tell him the truth?

[Anonymous]

What is an example of him making other women fight?

[Anonymous]

He tried to pee on you in the shower? WTF?!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t meet up with him in person; he doesn’t sound trustworthy. If you choose to share I would communicate via text, and do it as kindly as possible without leaving a door open for further discussion.

[Anonymous]

"Bathroom talk/humor is just not my thing. That and some other immature stuff became dealbreakers pretty fast. I wish you the best of luck finding the right person" then BYE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About a month ago I ended things with a guy I had been dating. He was younger than me by a few years, in his early 30s. When we first started dating, he was great- seemed mature, responsible, sexy.

But after a few weeks, I guess after he had gotten more comfortable around me, it was like he reverted to being a teenage boy. Farting all the time around me, constant homophobic and poop jokes, if he had stomach problems he would tell me all the details about his bathroom trips, laughing at me during sex (not like cute laughing because something weird happened, like if I made any noise whatsoever or tried to dirty talk he’d just laugh), he’d try to initiate sex by either groping my chest or whipping his junk out and shaking it at me. When he visted extended family, he would troll the woman to try to get them to fight with each other. Everything was a big joke to him.

It was SO weird and such a 180 from the guy I originally met. He grew up around all guys, and was military, so I chalked it up to the dude had never really been around women. But I guess he knew enough to not act like a total caveman at first?

Anyway, I ended things soon afterwards because I was so grossed out. He was actually pretty distraught over me ending things. I never really gave him a reason why, just that I thought we weren’t compatible.

He’s reached out and wants to talk about why I ended it for closure. How honest should I be with him? I don’t want to lie and reassure him he’s great, but also, I feel bad saying that basically everything about his personality is disgusting.

Sounds like he's doing another variation of the trolling, trying to rile a woman up and get her to argue, this time with him.

He doesn't need you to tell him what he's doing wrong. He knows it perfectly well, because he avoids it during the first few months of dating. In order to keep a woman, he'd have to have the ability and desire to keep that up, and he clearly can't or won't do that, but he already knows exactly what he has to do. So the question is really more like "why didn't you feel trapped with me once I let my true colors show?" He probably should just propose to the next woman ASAP and try to marry her within a few months so he can start acting like a pig. You probably don't want to help him by telling him that!

[Anonymous]

I would just explain briefly in text wont meet with him

[Anonymous]

How soon did you sleep with him? The behaviors show some sort of mental deviation hard to believe you didn't notice anything unusual about him right away

[Anonymous]

"he’d try to initiate sex by...... whipping his junk out and shaking it at me."

LOL.