DD 15 overly judgmental towards schools fundraising

[Anonymous]

Fundraising pays for many students tuition, why doesn't she understand that? Does she also understand that private schools do not get as many subsidies as public so its more expensive to run/pay staff? Its your responsibility to teach her these things as she will come off as entitled, out of touch, tone deaf and ignorant if she continues with these rants.

Its one thing to comment on how ridiculous it is for a 60k/year school to charge students $10 each for a dance, its another to poo poo actual fundraising efforts that give her an excellent school environment.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter is the epitome of virtue signaling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have done a reasonably good job of explaining the independent school business model. Either your DD can’t understand it or she doesn’t want to try. Either way, you might suggest to her that she would be more comfortable at your local public school given her concerns.

Empty threat and the DD will know it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she’s responding to the hypocrisy of financial aid?

“Hypocrisy of financial aid”? Sorry, please explain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has to be fake. Kids have more going on in their life than this. Nice try, OP!

Well, some people have kids who like to take an active interest in their school and education. Not everyone, I guess.

Fundraising has nothing to do with your kid. They are hitting up the parents. Presumably your kid is not independently wealthy?

[Anonymous]

She's entirely correct. You know this. I don't know you're posting.

[Anonymous]

Your DD may perceive that kids on FA and from struggling families also get hit up for spirit days and 100% participation.

[Anonymous]

Does your school have a financial report?

Maybe going over the costs of operating a campus could be discussed.

My dad was an accountant and used to review spreadsheets with us about how much some of our activities and "needs" required. My mother (in her 70s) recently told me that when my brother moved out to live in another state he explained that in the new place, they charge for utilities. He literally though that those things came with the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DD may perceive that kids on FA and from struggling families also get hit up for spirit days and 100% participation.

I thought no one - no one! - knows who’s on FA!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your DD may perceive that kids on FA and from struggling families also get hit up for spirit days and 100% participation.

I thought no one - no one! - knows who’s on FA!

Nice joke.

[Anonymous]

She's right. If they cannot meet their financial obligations on the tuition, then need to get ther spending under control.

[Anonymous]

My son is 14 and has similar observations. They are developing critical thinking skills, and I think it’s great. Ask the questions!

[Anonymous]

PP here—I’ll add it’s not her job to understand how expensive it is to run a school and the ins and outs of financing it. She’s 15–she doesn’t have an adult brain. It’s all very developmentally appropriate and personally, for our son, we are glad he has some acknowledgment of his privilege.