Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?

[Anonymous]

If they included a website link on the save the date, see if you can access the rsvp section. Those typically have check boxes next to each invited family member’s name.

[Anonymous]

Do not put ILs in the middle of this. Bad advice.

DH needs to ask his brother. You have been given much advance notice, either way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not put ILs in the middle of this. Bad advice.

DH needs to ask his brother. You have been given much advance notice, either way.

+1

Ask the person who is responsible for making the decision. You don't need to consult the website. You don't need to involve parents. Just ask.

[Anonymous]

I think they weren't thinking about the baby. Your husband needs to clarify if this is adults only.

[Anonymous]

Definitely ask.

My guess is no kids because they are worried about kids getting attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely ask.

My guess is no kids because they are worried about kids getting attention.

Doubtful. It's always about money. Kids were $$$ at my wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.

Maybe that's why. Perhaps they'd like the wedding and reception to not have a ton of young kids running around.

This. If they have to provide a seat, a meal, and cake for every niece and nephew it would be a lot. And might mean a larger venue.

Since you will have a baby in arms, and you're close relatives, you may ask.

You're not close relatives if they forgot to list your baby on the invitation. He's not invited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.

Maybe that's why. Perhaps they'd like the wedding and reception to not have a ton of young kids running around.

This. If they have to provide a seat, a meal, and cake for every niece and nephew it would be a lot. And might mean a larger venue.

Since you will have a baby in arms, and you're close relatives, you may ask.

You're not close relatives if they forgot to list your baby on the invitation. He's not invited.

Maybe they didn’t forget. Maybe the close relatives prefer a baby-free wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.

Maybe that's why. Perhaps they'd like the wedding and reception to not have a ton of young kids running around.

This. If they have to provide a seat, a meal, and cake for every niece and nephew it would be a lot. And might mean a larger venue.

Since you will have a baby in arms, and you're close relatives, you may ask.

You're not close relatives if they forgot to list your baby on the invitation. He's not invited.

Maybe they didn’t forget. Maybe the close relatives prefer a baby-free wedding.

Yes, that's what I meant. A previous poster said maybe they forgot OP had a baby, and I think they did not. They know full well and he's not invited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.

And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.

Maybe that's why. Perhaps they'd like the wedding and reception to not have a ton of young kids running around.

This. If they have to provide a seat, a meal, and cake for every niece and nephew it would be a lot. And might mean a larger venue.

Since you will have a baby in arms, and you're close relatives, you may ask.

You're not close relatives if they forgot to list your baby on the invitation. He's not invited.

Maybe they didn’t forget. Maybe the close relatives prefer a baby-free wedding.

Yes, that's what I meant. A previous poster said maybe they forgot OP had a baby, and I think they did not. They know full well and he's not invited.

Understood. Agree they are aware the baby, the name of the baby, and how to add the name to an invite. Still I’d ask for clarity, assuming OP really still wants/needs to bring the baby.

[Anonymous]

They definitely do NOT want a year old baby at their wedding. If your baby were 2 months old, that'd be fine. But 12-15 months? No, that kid is crying and wiggling around - not wedding appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They definitely do NOT want a year old baby at their wedding. If your baby were 2 months old, that'd be fine. But 12-15 months? No, that kid is crying and wiggling around - not wedding appropriate.

Given how babies are at this age, I can’t understand why someone would want to bring the baby.

[Anonymous]

This recently happened to us... if your child was invited it would say 'The ______ Family." It said just our two names and it ends up the kids weren't invited which we were surprised about but oh well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Feeling like a lot of important people won't be able to make it is just your opinion. Perhaps other people are more important that day than distant siblings who have kids they may not have even met. Have your BIL and his fiance met your baby at least once?

This. I have three kids (6, 4, and 2) and even if they were invited I wouldn’t bring them to a wedding, I want to enjoy myself!! I’ve left them with family and gotten babysitters at an AirBnB through the couple/couples parents to attend weddings. I’d assume most parents want to enjoy a wedding without their kids.

You shouldn’t assume that. Many, many parents won’t even attend a wedding if their kids are not invited.

[Anonymous]

We got a Save the Date for a family wedding addressed to "The Larlo family" but then it says no children on the card. Our kids are 21 16, and 15, so I don't know who is actually invited.