Adult child charged with felony reckless driving - lawyers need your input here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reading OP’s letter, he HAS STOPPED driving.

The question is if he can avoid jail time, and if not, how it impacts future education and employment.

HAS HE THOUGH? Or has he just told OP that he has, and OP is believing him?

Sorry but in some young men, the yearning for risky behavior is not easily suppressed and he will likely be back at it as soon as he finds a way he thinks he can do it.

[Anonymous]

is this in virginia? i got that--i believe it was misdemeanor reckless driving over 20 miles of the speed limit--lawyer pleaded it down to a fine

[Anonymous]

OP never should have let him expect to drive. His disabilities prevent him from doing so with consistent safety for others and himself.
That said, get a lawyer and plea this down to a fine and surrendered license.

[Anonymous]

OP I know 2 boys who got charges dropped down to speeding with a lawyer - both were in Virginia and driving over 20 mph over posted speed limit. Both 19 and both had no other tickets.
If/ when he does drive get Life360- I can tell when DC drives over the speed limit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - Your son is a public danger. Do you need to see someone killed in a horrible accident to understand that his reckless behavior needs to be penalized?

+1

Wake up, OP. He could have killed an innocent person.

[Anonymous]

If this is Virginia, you do need a lawyer to get it down to basic speeding and out of the misdemeanor realm (which in VA for reckless means a few nights in jail).

To be sure, the lawyer will not add any particualr value. But it is a part of the Commonwealth's lesson teaching. If you pay for the lawyer the CA and judge will see that as "punitive" and suffer the inconvenience, they'll be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be clear, you need to get him an attorney to work on a deal.

This.

I would add that my adhd /asd employed husband is also a terrible driver. His level of attentiveness is low.c poor situational awareness and he cannot predict basic things, and he has zero sense of speed. Thus he’s usually speeding. And doesn’t look at the speedometer. On freeways his MO is to jsut pass everyone he sees because…. That’s driving to him!

I minimize him driving the kids at all times. Meaning I do the family driving when we are all together or a nanny does. When his parents visit they don’t want him driving them either, so I have too. He speeds and goes through new red lights, rolling stops, has no sense of direction (gps saved him when it came out).

He really should t be driving.
I’m surprised no one had looked into the correlation between driving “accidents” and who at fault had untreated adhd or asd.
If I were a car insurance company I sure would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a similar kid, OP, so I am incredibly proud for what your son has accomplished.

And I am relieved that the mental health stuff will mean nothing to a judge. Maturity means knowing what you can’t handle - and your son can’t drive safely so he can’t drive.

It will cause logistics and financial problems, yes, as does for people with vision problems and people with epilepsy and others who can’t drive. But HE CANNOT DRIVE.

Surrender his license to the DMV on Monday.

+1

Knowing your limits is wise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be clear, you need to get him an attorney to work on a deal.

This.

I would add that my adhd /asd employed husband is also a terrible driver. His level of attentiveness is low.c poor situational awareness and he cannot predict basic things, and he has zero sense of speed. Thus he’s usually speeding. And doesn’t look at the speedometer. On freeways his MO is to jsut pass everyone he sees because…. That’s driving to him!

I minimize him driving the kids at all times. Meaning I do the family driving when we are all together or a nanny does. When his parents visit they don’t want him driving them either, so I have too. He speeds and goes through new red lights, rolling stops, has no sense of direction (gps saved him when it came out).

He really should t be driving.
I’m surprised no one had looked into the correlation between driving “accidents” and who at fault had untreated adhd or asd.
If I were a car insurance company I sure would.

When he kills or maims people your nice little family is going to get sued up the wazoo. You are apparently ok with that so long as it's strangers. And he stays employed.

He needs to be hotten off the road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be clear, you need to get him an attorney to work on a deal.

This.

I would add that my adhd /asd employed husband is also a terrible driver. His level of attentiveness is low.c poor situational awareness and he cannot predict basic things, and he has zero sense of speed. Thus he’s usually speeding. And doesn’t look at the speedometer. On freeways his MO is to jsut pass everyone he sees because…. That’s driving to him!

I minimize him driving the kids at all times. Meaning I do the family driving when we are all together or a nanny does. When his parents visit they don’t want him driving them either, so I have too. He speeds and goes through new red lights, rolling stops, has no sense of direction (gps saved him when it came out).

He really should t be driving.
I’m surprised no one had looked into the correlation between driving “accidents” and who at fault had untreated adhd or asd.
If I were a car insurance company I sure would.

When he kills or maims people your nice little family is going to get sued up the wazoo. You are apparently ok with that so long as it's strangers. And he stays employed.

He needs to be hotten off the road.

Lots of people indeed should be off the roads.

That’s why we need road rules tests and behind the wheel re-tests for age 65+ and for every state to convert an intl license to a state one (talk to you, Maryland!).

If you can find a way to keep people with poor judgement off the roads (mental disorders, risk addicts, impulsive, slow processing, etc.), I’m all for that too.

[Anonymous]

Yeah but the employed reckless pass em all spouse above won't be 65 for a long time. Family should act to get them off the road.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah but the employed reckless pass em all spouse above won't be 65 for a long time. Family should act to get them off the road.

Absolutely, go get those bad driver narcissistic males’ licenses revoked. Have at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reading OP’s letter, he HAS STOPPED driving.

The question is if he can avoid jail time, and if not, how it impacts future education and employment.

HAS HE THOUGH? Or has he just told OP that he has, and OP is believing him?

Sorry but in some young men, the yearning for risky behavior is not easily suppressed and he will likely be back at it as soon as he finds a way he thinks he can do it.

I'm the OP. Yes, he has 100% stopped driving. I know because I'm driving him around everywhere now, classes, friends houses, shopping trips, for everything.

He's very upset with this and its been a wake up call for him. He's embarrassed. He feels foolish.

[Anonymous]

Is this Mo co?
How fast was he going?
Mo co did just institute this mandatory jail for reckless driving. You need a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think he is going to jail? Was someone injured?
If so, he may need to go to jail or something. He may get a sentence of no driving- let's hope so.