How shitty would I be to do this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to do what is right for you OP. I think the concept of being loyal to an employer or a company is out of date.

Your current company hired you because they needed to fill a role, not because they knew you needed a job.

Also who knows when the new company will have another position like yours open again. This could be your only opportunity to work there.

Good luck!

Agreed.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?

Why the hell would she do this? That's so weird.

Where is your empathy?

Empathy for what? People with jobs?

Kindness knows no quotient. Caring is not cavalier. Give.

This poster is nuts. You definitely do not give parting gifts to co-workers of less than a year. Or more than a year. Or at all.

The time for ‘giving’ was when she first got the job and the recipient would have been the personal connection who got her the job. And the ‘gift’ should have been like a bottle of wine or taking the friend out to lunch.

[Anonymous]

Op you are waaay overthinking this. Either you are extremely young and relatively new to the workforce or you aren’t American and have no idea how our capitalist culture works. There is no such thing as loyalty to your employer unless you work for a small family business or something and they treat you well then perhaps. But otherwise you are just a warm body that produces needed output for your employer that enables them to earn more money and they will replace you in a second if it made sense to their bottom line to do so. If something better comes along for you even if it is a month after you take a new job you need to jump on it. This job doesn’t sound like a good long term option for you. Stop wasting energy caring about how it might go over with your current employer. Six months after you’ve left people will struggle to remember what you looked like. Focus on the new opportunity and good luck.

[Anonymous]

OP, If you get the job give notice at your existing job.

Best of luck.

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Not at all - this is feedback the company needs, if they are having so much trouble retaining talent, they need to know it and figure it out.

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You owe an employer nothing. You act like you were a child taken in by foster care. They could fire you for no reason tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Laid off in May. Got a new job via personal connections in July. It's a lesser version of what I did in my last job if that makes sense. I went from closing six figure deals to four figure deals.

On top of it, company is extremely disorganized and micromanage-y. Like, to the point that a fellow new employee told me she regrets taking the job. (I'm not at that point yet, but she's also had a more chaotic six months than me.)

Boss is great, albeit disorganized. Some of my coworkers are great, others don't know how to do basic office functions. (I.e. coworker who "does not know how to use Teams" so she just doesn't use it and is impossible to reach...this is not age-related bc she's two years younger than me.) I like the work, but I don't think there's enough of it to fulfill me long-term.

A job more like my previous role opened up a few days ago, at a company I've long been trying to work at, and after much waffling, DH finally told me "You get one go around." So I reached out to the hiring manager (I know her personally) and said I'd like to apply, which she told me I should definitely do and she'd be in touch to schedule an interview once I formally applied.

...How much of a POS would I be to do this? I feel really bad; this job took me in when I was laid off, gave me a great salary, and other than being annoyed at the general chaos, I like everyone. It feels like a super shitty thing to do but I also just don't see myself being fulfilled in my current role for more than a couple years. Basically it's like a relationship where your boyfriend is okay but not "The One" but he's nice and takes care of you so you'd feel bad breaking up and looking for someone who is The One.

Thoughts? Basically I want you guys to tell me I'm not a complete POS but if I am being one, please tell me.

Do employers wring their hands and fret when they lay people off?

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It’s business not a spouse

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No, you wouldn't be. It's a job, however, do keep it professional. On another note, maybe I can have your old job!

[Anonymous]

Not shitty at all. Be gracious to the person who hired you but don’t over explain. “I just got my dream job. I am sorry I won’t get to stay and do XYZ that I was excited about. I’m forever grateful for your support in a tough time.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?

This is ridiculous. Do not do this. I’ve never even heard of anything like this ever suggested.

[Anonymous]

Look out for yourself. Apply. You may not even get an interview! Stress about leaving once you have an offer.

[Anonymous]

OP Thank you all. I formally applied a few hours ago!

[Anonymous]

You've been there 6 month. That's a lifetime for kids these days.

Just bail. It's your life.

[Anonymous]

It’s not personal, it’s business.