How shitty would I be to do this

[Anonymous]

Laid off in May. Got a new job via personal connections in July. It's a lesser version of what I did in my last job if that makes sense. I went from closing six figure deals to four figure deals.

On top of it, company is extremely disorganized and micromanage-y. Like, to the point that a fellow new employee told me she regrets taking the job. (I'm not at that point yet, but she's also had a more chaotic six months than me.)

Boss is great, albeit disorganized. Some of my coworkers are great, others don't know how to do basic office functions. (I.e. coworker who "does not know how to use Teams" so she just doesn't use it and is impossible to reach...this is not age-related bc she's two years younger than me.) I like the work, but I don't think there's enough of it to fulfill me long-term.

A job more like my previous role opened up a few days ago, at a company I've long been trying to work at, and after much waffling, DH finally told me "You get one go around." So I reached out to the hiring manager (I know her personally) and said I'd like to apply, which she told me I should definitely do and she'd be in touch to schedule an interview once I formally applied.

...How much of a POS would I be to do this? I feel really bad; this job took me in when I was laid off, gave me a great salary, and other than being annoyed at the general chaos, I like everyone. It feels like a super shitty thing to do but I also just don't see myself being fulfilled in my current role for more than a couple years. Basically it's like a relationship where your boyfriend is okay but not "The One" but he's nice and takes care of you so you'd feel bad breaking up and looking for someone who is The One.

Thoughts? Basically I want you guys to tell me I'm not a complete POS but if I am being one, please tell me.

[Anonymous]

Just do it. You have my permission.

[Anonymous]

Apply. You have to do what's best for you.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you'd be a PoS. You gave it half a year and this is not a good fit. You'll give appropriate notice at your current job if you get the dream company.

[Anonymous]

I would go for it. If you get an offer, you can always decline it. Interviews are two way actions.

It doesn't hurt to take this as a practice run.

[Anonymous]

You have to do what is right for you OP. I think the concept of being loyal to an employer or a company is out of date.

Your current company hired you because they needed to fill a role, not because they knew you needed a job.

Also who knows when the new company will have another position like yours open again. This could be your only opportunity to work there.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I don't think you should feel bad. You were laid off. You had to put food on the table. You took what was available to you at the time.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?

Lol. Do not do this.

Being laid off should've been your first clue we're expendable to companies. If you got hit by a bus en route to work tomorrow they'd say how sad it was and then list your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?

All of them?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?

DO NOT DO THIS. It is highly inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?

All of them?!

All of them ideally. Excluding people would be wring. OP can you do this and feel good. It's all about giving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should feel bad. You were laid off. You had to put food on the table. You took what was available to you at the time.

Correct--and the company knows this if the job is a step down. They probably know you are looking for something better or for a promotion.

[Anonymous]

OP: Thanks, all. I think I mostly feel bad because a connection from my former company connected me to my current employer. (She worked here like ten years ago.) It feels super shitty to be like "Hey, thanks for helping me get this job! Anyway I left after barely a year."

But, I do think it's true what someone said, I did take what was available at the time. If I hadn't been laid off from my old job, I wouldn't have even applied to my current job.

I'm getting ahead of myself, it's not like I've even been offered a job. But it does give me pause.

[Anonymous]

You would be a fool not to go after the new job.