Jealous he’s dating around even though we aren’t exclusive

[Anonymous]

Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

If you can sleep together, you can be bf/gf. You sound....very dim and with low self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

I left DH and moved out of our family house and live by myself. We didn’t file for divorce, but I’m dating someone who asked me to become his girlfriend, and I agreed. So yes, you can date and be someone’s exclusive girlfriend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

If you can sleep together, you can be bf/gf. You sound....very dim and with low self esteem.

OP here. We are NOT sleeping together.

[Anonymous]

OP, get some therapy for the myriad issues you’ve revealed in a mere three pages.

[Anonymous]

I doubt he is sleeping in the basement.

Even in my 20s when single and stupid I never discussed dates with other men- especially if I respected and cared for the person(s) I was seeing.

He doesn’t respect you and is probably looking to have as much sex with others as possible.

[Anonymous]

Even if he was fully divorced and living alone, and even if you two agreed you’re not ready to be exclusive yet…. It’s completely inappropriate for him to tell you he has a date planned with another woman. As in, completely poor taste to tell you that. It doesn’t get any poorer in taste than that.

You’re going to be meeting a lot of men in this new chapter of your life. Decide right now that you’re only willing to date those that conduct themselves with class and respect for the women they’re seeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

LOL girl. He lied to your f***ing face. Seriously, stop thinking with your vagina. He's not that into you if he's dating other women. How dumb are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

I left DH and moved out of our family house and live by myself. We didn’t file for divorce, but I’m dating someone who asked me to become his girlfriend, and I agreed. So yes, you can date and be someone’s exclusive girlfriend!

Op, don't take advice from married people who are dating around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, get some therapy for the myriad issues you’ve revealed in a mere three pages.

+1 Break up with him and don’t date until you know what healthy boundaries are, and have some for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

LOL girl. He lied to your f***ing face. Seriously, stop thinking with your vagina. He's not that into you if he's dating other women. How dumb are you?

I don't think he lied. That euphoria of someone new can be intoxicating - men feel it too. Doesn't mean it lasts or that either wants a relationship but that initial feeling can be overwhelming. They are both still detangling themselves for a marriage - he shouldn't want to be that into her - the last thing either of them needs is a serious relationship while they are still married. OP would be a fool to want an exclusive committed relationship with him.

[Anonymous]

How rich is he?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

If you can sleep together, you can be bf/gf. You sound....very dim and with low self esteem.

OP here. We are NOT sleeping together.

So you're just friends without benefits? He is going to move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

If you can sleep together, you can be bf/gf. You sound....very dim and with low self esteem.

OP here. We are NOT sleeping together.

So you're just friends without benefits? He is going to move on.

I dont think you know what that means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. We are both coming out of long and unhappy marriages and we agreed that we have an instant and immediate strong connection. It was me who said we shouldn’t be so serious so quickly as we need time to find ourselves and see what’s out there. And he agreed. So it’s not like he is playing me. I guess I’m surprised I feel so jealous! We are also each still married so it’s not like we can date and be boyfriend/girlfriend!

If you can sleep together, you can be bf/gf. You sound....very dim and with low self esteem.

OP here. We are NOT sleeping together.

Ok, if you are going on dates with him then you can be bf/gf. You can have a bf while still legally married. Honestly, you just need therapy.