Jealous he’s dating around even though we aren’t exclusive

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for a month and a half. We are both separated; I live by myself and he still lives with his ex-wife but moving out to an apartment currently.

We agreed to take things slow and get to know each other while we figure out each of our divorces. We have not been intimate although have shared kisses. We want to not rush into anything and see what’s out there. I occasionally go on dates with other guys and he has too.

We were chatting today and he said he has a date tomorrow night with a new woman. I was surprised at how jealous and sad I felt! Now I feel confused and pretty terrible. I too am also talking to this other guy but I definitely do not have an emotional attachment that I have with this guy.

This is tricky and confusing to navigate! ☹️

[Anonymous]

He is living with his wife and dating other women. If you choose to see him, you do so knowing full well that he is not monogamous. If you want something monogamous, you don't go on dates with people who are living with their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Is he undocumented or have you actually seen the divorce papers

[Anonymous]

Run. Seriously.

What would your advice be to a friend who told you this story? Follow that advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is living with his wife and dating other women. If you choose to see him, you do so knowing full well that he is not monogamous. If you want something monogamous, you don't go on dates with people who are living with their spouse.

+1

[Anonymous]

Girl. This man is not divorced, living w his wife and dating.

Why on earth did you catch feelings for him ?

[Anonymous]

What a mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he undocumented or have you actually seen the divorce papers

Is he 5'3" on a good day?

[Anonymous]

He will be dating a lot. He has been waiting for it.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I’m separated too but I live with by myself and have no contact with my ex-husband. I didn’t love that he lives with his wife but he sleeps in the basement and his wife has already had like 3 boyfriends. I don’t think he is not getting divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is he undocumented or have you actually seen the divorce papers

Is he 5'3" on a good day?

He is short, yes

[Anonymous]

You are being played, my dear. I would not tolerate that at all.

[Anonymous]

Ew, why would you date someone who still lives with his WIFE?

Go date around yourself. He's not the one. He wants to play the field as a single guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are being played, my dear. I would not tolerate that at all.

She is not being played. She is playing herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m separated too but I live with by myself and have no contact with my ex-husband. I didn’t love that he lives with his wife but he sleeps in the basement and his wife has already had like 3 boyfriends. I don’t think he is not getting divorced.

OMG, you deserve so much better than this. (Any woman does.) Stop talking to him and get into therapy to examine why you would settle for so little. Don’t date guys unless they’ve been divorced and in their own housing for at least a year. If they have kids, don’t date anyone whose has less than 50% custody of their children every week year round.