How much should parents be involved in high schoolers’ dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you should make them break. You don't know this girl, and what if she's a bad influence? Break it off now while you still can. I'm speaking from experience beautiful son had his gf when he was in freshmen year. It all went downhill from there. He started weed and even came out as Bisexual.

This is the funniest post I’ve seen in a while.

Tale as old as time, right? Lol

[Anonymous]

I like the idea of a dinner invite, but I would suggest he invite a group of kids from their club. Low key. It’s probably not a bad idea to buy some pizzas or set up a taco bar and say hello to his friends. Keep it low stakes. He can invite the group in a text, and offer your number to any parents who want to confirm you’ll be home. Be pro actively transparent. They are still on the young side. (Different advice if a senior.)

Whether or not she attends in a group will likely give a little insight into whether her family is aware of your son. If they are not, advise your son accordingly.

In any event, based on what I know of Indian American families, his grades are unlikely to slip and I doubt drugs/alcohol are going to be introduced to him by her.

Take the long view: He crushes on smart girls. This bodes well for his future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like the idea of a dinner invite, but I would suggest he invite a group of kids from their club. Low key. It’s probably not a bad idea to buy some pizzas or set up a taco bar and say hello to his friends. Keep it low stakes. He can invite the group in a text, and offer your number to any parents who want to confirm you’ll be home. Be pro actively transparent. They are still on the young side. (Different advice if a senior.)

Whether or not she attends in a group will likely give a little insight into whether her family is aware of your son. If they are not, advise your son accordingly.

In any event, based on what I know of Indian American families, his grades are unlikely to slip and I doubt drugs/alcohol are going to be introduced to him by her.

Take the long view: He crushes on smart girls. This bodes well for his future.

Good idea! I will try.

BTW, when a kid says someone is "smart", I don't think it's the same as what we mean. Most likely, that's a person with strong personalities.

[Anonymous]

I have twin brothers and when they started dating, my mom just silently refilled a drawer in their bathroom with condoms as often as needed til they moved out.

[Anonymous]

This is all pretty weird to me. My sophomore DD has "dated" someone. Other than making sure she knew she could talk to me, I didn't really get in the middle of it. They went to dinner once. Had coffee at Starbucks. That sort of thing. DD will not go to anyone's house, and I didn't invite him over to ours because it's just not that serious. It lasted a few months, and they broke up when he cheated on her with his ex. I was there to listen to her vent.

We're Indian, BTW. While it is true that a lot of Indian girls sneak around with their boyfriends, not all do. It bodes well for your son's radar that he's choosing a smart girl. I disagree that he means she has a strong personality (she may or may not); he likely means that she has a high GPA. This is how most of DD's friends, including her boyfriend, thinks of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have twin brothers and when they started dating, my mom just silently refilled a drawer in their bathroom with condoms as often as needed til they moved out.

Ewww!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have twin brothers and when they started dating, my mom just silently refilled a drawer in their bathroom with condoms as often as needed til they moved out.

Must not have been very silent if you knew all about it. Did your brothers really not comment on their condom stockpile magically refilling itself? Do they believe in the d1ck fairy as well as the tooth fairy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should make them break. You don't know this girl, and what if she's a bad influence? Break it off now while you still can. I'm speaking from experience beautiful son had his gf when he was in freshmen year. It all went downhill from there. He started weed and even came out as Bisexual.

That is all on him not her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you should make them break. You don't know this girl, and what if she's a bad influence? Break it off now while you still can. I'm speaking from experience beautiful son had his gf when he was in freshmen year. It all went downhill from there. He started weed and even came out as Bisexual.

That is all on him not her.

Well, it really depends. If the son ended up using weed with GF and having group s*x, then obviously this wouldn't have happened with no GF/ different GF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you should make them break. You don't know this girl, and what if she's a bad influence? Break it off now while you still can. I'm speaking from experience beautiful son had his gf when he was in freshmen year. It all went downhill from there. He started weed and even came out as Bisexual.

That is all on him not her.

Well, it really depends. If the son ended up using weed with GF and having group s*x, then obviously this wouldn't have happened with no GF/ different GF.

I've observed that kids tend to find the trouble they want.

[Anonymous]

BC asap
Sex talk over and over again

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should make them break. You don't know this girl, and what if she's a bad influence? Break it off now while you still can. I'm speaking from experience beautiful son had his gf when he was in freshmen year. It all went downhill from there. He started weed and even came out as Bisexual.

Lmao