Finally got done with abusive ex-gf

[Anonymous]

Good thing the roles weren’t reversed. She’d probably be dead now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good thing the roles weren’t reversed. She’d probably be dead now.

Yawn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.

And you stayed with her for 2.5 years because….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Good thing the roles weren’t reversed. She’d probably be dead now.

Yawn

Abuse that men face in this society are not discussed much and that is one of the major mental health issues in this country. It is difficult to get out of abusive relationships for anyone, whether it is a man or a woman. I am glad OP is out of this situation and hope he learns from this and get into better relationships in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

That has nothing to do with taking gifts back from someone. Taking gifts back is stealing someone else’s property. It doesn’t matter what someone is “going through.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

That has nothing to do with taking gifts back from someone. Taking gifts back is stealing someone else’s property. It doesn’t matter what someone is “going through.”


Yes and it’s also cruel to take property from a mentally unstable woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

That has nothing to do with taking gifts back from someone. Taking gifts back is stealing someone else’s property. It doesn’t matter what someone is “going through.”

what if the person you know is openly abusing and using you for money and she already have enough and you had spent enough money on her already? I think there would be a time when people realize that it wasn't the real deep relationship but they are being used and they have right to protect them from this behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

That has nothing to do with taking gifts back from someone. Taking gifts back is stealing someone else’s property. It doesn’t matter what someone is “going through.”

what if the person you know is openly abusing and using you for money and she already have enough and you had spent enough money on her already? I think there would be a time when people realize that it wasn't the real deep relationship but they are being used and they have right to protect them from this behavior.

People need to protect themselves by not engaging with those who use them. Not by taking property. The gifts are in the past - the fact OP taking them back shows he didn’t learn (by paying a penalty in the form of gifts). So he’ll continue giving gifts to abusive gold diggers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

That has nothing to do with taking gifts back from someone. Taking gifts back is stealing someone else’s property. It doesn’t matter what someone is “going through.”

what if the person you know is openly abusing and using you for money and she already have enough and you had spent enough money on her already? I think there would be a time when people realize that it wasn't the real deep relationship but they are being used and they have right to protect them from this behavior.

If you gave something as a gift, it is now owned by the other person. If you take it back or refuse to return it, that is theft. It doesn’t matter whether someone wasn’t nice to you or hurt your feelings. You have to allow them to retrieve their own belongings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.

Troll!!

[Anonymous]

Why did you attract this person in the first place? Ponder that.

(Though I do look down upon any man who posts in the relationship forum.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's always good to end a toxic relationship, but retracting gifts isn't a good look.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Legally, any gifts you gave her belong to her, not you. You cannot take back a gift.

lol! Who says that? People give gifts back when relationship ends all the time. Things are more complicated in relationships and there is no black and white from legal perspective. - a lawyer

Of course she can give back the gift. He can't take back something he's gifted her. It's not marital property because they're not married. It's her property, so it's hers.

And it seems that he kept it at the home they were cohabiting and is not letting her have it back after she left the home. Yes, seems that OP is a drama llama and wants to continue to engage with her.

It's you. You are the problem, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're going to be known as the stingy loser ex LOL

I am sure he is big time broken up about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

Yup, abusive men love to claim their ex was crazy and abusive. Usually it's just projection. Clearly by OPs lack of knowledge regarding "boundaries" (btw OP, stealing gifts is not a boundary you idiot) he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.