Finally got done with abusive ex-gf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.

And you stayed with her for 2.5 years because….

I'm a new poster. But people (including me) stay in toxic relationships because they think, for a while, that they will eventually succeed if they just say the right thing or do the right thing or the other person manages to get better. Plus the highs can be very high and the makeup sex can be mind blowing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

Yup, abusive men love to claim their ex was crazy and abusive. Usually it's just projection. Clearly by OPs lack of knowledge regarding "boundaries" (btw OP, stealing gifts is not a boundary you idiot) he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.

again, you don't know what OP has gone through and how much financial abuse his ex-gf has wrecked already. You want to say that people should be careful to not continue or date people like this but it happens for both men and women. I am a woman but could relate to this since my brother took abuse from his ex-wife for a long time before he gathered the courage to separate from him. At that time, we had to do what we could to see his assets, items etc and it is about survival for him and the children and thinking about gifts or being fair is last on our mind. You should not say anything unless you or any of your loved one been in an abusive relationship and experienced that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.

And you stayed with her for 2.5 years because….

I'm a new poster. But people (including me) stay in toxic relationships because they think, for a while, that they will eventually succeed if they just say the right thing or do the right thing or the other person manages to get better. Plus the highs can be very high and the makeup sex can be mind blowing.

This is so true. No one know your situation so some of the PPs targeting OP is low.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully OP picks better next time. Though, as a 40+ bachelor, there are clearly other issues with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

Yup, abusive men love to claim their ex was crazy and abusive. Usually it's just projection. Clearly by OPs lack of knowledge regarding "boundaries" (btw OP, stealing gifts is not a boundary you idiot) he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.

again, you don't know what OP has gone through and how much financial abuse his ex-gf has wrecked already. You want to say that people should be careful to not continue or date people like this but it happens for both men and women. I am a woman but could relate to this since my brother took abuse from his ex-wife for a long time before he gathered the courage to separate from him. At that time, we had to do what we could to see his assets, items etc and it is about survival for him and the children and thinking about gifts or being fair is last on our mind. You should not say anything unless you or any of your loved one been in an abusive relationship and experienced that.

OP didn't even mention financial abuse - you're literally making things up. Sexist misogynist hates women, more at 11

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

Yup, abusive men love to claim their ex was crazy and abusive. Usually it's just projection. Clearly by OPs lack of knowledge regarding "boundaries" (btw OP, stealing gifts is not a boundary you idiot) he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.

again, you don't know what OP has gone through and how much financial abuse his ex-gf has wrecked already. You want to say that people should be careful to not continue or date people like this but it happens for both men and women. I am a woman but could relate to this since my brother took abuse from his ex-wife for a long time before he gathered the courage to separate from him. At that time, we had to do what we could to see his assets, items etc and it is about survival for him and the children and thinking about gifts or being fair is last on our mind. You should not say anything unless you or any of your loved one been in an abusive relationship and experienced that.

I think your pants are on fire. Stop trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hopefully OP picks better next time. Though, as a 40+ bachelor, there are clearly other issues with him.

People don't intentionally get into a relationship with an abuser and it develops with time. yes, there are some red flags and he should be more careful going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

Yup, abusive men love to claim their ex was crazy and abusive. Usually it's just projection. Clearly by OPs lack of knowledge regarding "boundaries" (btw OP, stealing gifts is not a boundary you idiot) he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.

again, you don't know what OP has gone through and how much financial abuse his ex-gf has wrecked already. You want to say that people should be careful to not continue or date people like this but it happens for both men and women. I am a woman but could relate to this since my brother took abuse from his ex-wife for a long time before he gathered the courage to separate from him. At that time, we had to do what we could to see his assets, items etc and it is about survival for him and the children and thinking about gifts or being fair is last on our mind. You should not say anything unless you or any of your loved one been in an abusive relationship and experienced that.

OP didn't even mention financial abuse - you're literally making things up. Sexist misogynist hates women, more at 11

You think women can't be abusers? You have to be human first and treat everyone kindly before bringing gender in between. Anyone could be an abuser in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

Yup, abusive men love to claim their ex was crazy and abusive. Usually it's just projection. Clearly by OPs lack of knowledge regarding "boundaries" (btw OP, stealing gifts is not a boundary you idiot) he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.

again, you don't know what OP has gone through and how much financial abuse his ex-gf has wrecked already. You want to say that people should be careful to not continue or date people like this but it happens for both men and women. I am a woman but could relate to this since my brother took abuse from his ex-wife for a long time before he gathered the courage to separate from him. At that time, we had to do what we could to see his assets, items etc and it is about survival for him and the children and thinking about gifts or being fair is last on our mind. You should not say anything unless you or any of your loved one been in an abusive relationship and experienced that.

OP didn't even mention financial abuse - you're literally making things up. Sexist misogynist hates women, more at 11

You think women can't be abusers? You have to be human first and treat everyone kindly before bringing gender in between. Anyone could be an abuser in the relationship.

They could be, anyone could be selfish, abusive and a user.

[Anonymous]

do you think she was abusive or tried her best to understand you and gave up?

[Anonymous]

so your OP says that she did not become emotionally abusive and hurtful until you withheld personal items you gifted her?

[Anonymous]

what went wrong before you "got done" with her, OP? Everything you describe sounds like she was reacting to your actions after you got done. And silent treatment/sulking for a day? Who cares, everyone has bad days. I call troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Taking it demanding back the gifts you gave to a woman is abuse

There is probably a lot that happened in past 2+ years that OP is going through or he did that none of us know.

Yup, abusive men love to claim their ex was crazy and abusive. Usually it's just projection. Clearly by OPs lack of knowledge regarding "boundaries" (btw OP, stealing gifts is not a boundary you idiot) he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.

again, you don't know what OP has gone through and how much financial abuse his ex-gf has wrecked already. You want to say that people should be careful to not continue or date people like this but it happens for both men and women. I am a woman but could relate to this since my brother took abuse from his ex-wife for a long time before he gathered the courage to separate from him. At that time, we had to do what we could to see his assets, items etc and it is about survival for him and the children and thinking about gifts or being fair is last on our mind. You should not say anything unless you or any of your loved one been in an abusive relationship and experienced that.

OP didn't even mention financial abuse - you're literally making things up. Sexist misogynist hates women, more at 11

You think women can't be abusers? You have to be human first and treat everyone kindly before bringing gender in between. Anyone could be an abuser in the relationship.

OP obviously thinks his ex gf was an abuser. What he didn't mention was financial abuse - that is all your imagination.

[Anonymous]

Hope you got to tap dat one last time before you noped out of there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt.

I must say I had to read this twice because this guy sounds like a b**c lol. No offense but I expect this kind of dejected response from a woman not a man.