Finally got done with abusive ex-gf
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| I am 44M and was in a relationship with 43F for about 2.5 years. I have had several relationships in my life and never experienced toxic relationship like this. It was hard to communicate anything with her and any small conflict would turn into her running away from home, threatening to break-up or stay sulking(or silent) treatment for a day. Even after the break-up, she continued to send nasty messages that I am her enemy or punishing her and I stopped engaging with her. Finally, she took her stuff and wanted expensive jewelry that I gifted her. She already has some of it but I told her NO and she can keep what she has but she kept on pushing for more and more. I was firm on my boundaries and she didn't take the rejection well and got very upset and emotionally abusive. This was hurtful and I wonder why people do things like this just to get a little advantage. Sorry, just venting my hurt. |
Anonymous
| Sorry OP that she was abusive and toxic towards you but good thing is that it is done and you don't have to deal with her anymore. |
Anonymous
| Why shouldn't she have things that you gave as gifts? Are you so broke that you couldn't afford to give them? |
Anonymous
| It's always good to end a toxic relationship, but retracting gifts isn't a good look. |
Anonymous
| You're going to be known as the stingy loser ex LOL |
Anonymous
| who cares about the look when you ex was abusive. They didn't care about your feelings, love or gave you any kind of empathy and who knows she was trying to screw OP over and get more stuff. |
Anonymous
Good for you, OP. Now, block her everywhere. |
Anonymous
| If you gave her the jewelry as a gift, it's theft to withhold it from her. Give it back (use a friend to exchange it if you need to) and make a clean break. |
Anonymous
|
Legally, any gifts you gave her belong to her, not you. You cannot take back a gift.
|
Anonymous
|
I understand the impulse to withhold gifts when someone wrongs you, I truly do, OP. But if you gave them to her, they are her property and you are not entitled to keep any of it. Next time, don't be so quick to buy expensive gifts for a girlfriend. |
Anonymous
lol! Who says that? People give gifts back when relationship ends all the time. Things are more complicated in relationships and there is no black and white from legal perspective. - a lawyer |
Anonymous
You're a lawyer and you don't know the difference between giving something back and someone stealing or withholding it? You must be crap at your job. |
Anonymous
| I think OP is right here because his ex wasn’t a regular person but abusive and you need to protect yourself from them. No contact moving forward |
Anonymous
| It’s done now. |
Anonymous
Of course she can give back the gift. He can't take back something he's gifted her. It's not marital property because they're not married. It's her property, so it's hers. |