Why is it acceptable for men to act like an extra child?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s as acceptable as wives accept it.

This. If it's acceptable to you, that's a you problem. If it's not acceptable to you, DTMFA and stay single until you find someone who meets your standards. I agree with PP upthread who suggests "screen more, scream less". Some women rush into relationships/marriages and accept whoever is available, then complain when they "suddenly realize" he's kinda trash. That's the man YOU picked. Longer engagements, dating longer before letting a man(child) move in with you, having some criteria before settling into a relationship (How does he fight? How does he handle no? How does he behave when he doesn't get his way?)... there are things you can do to pre-screen for a LOT of this behavior, and it's worth the invested time to save your sanity and resources.

If you're not putting in that effort and you end up with a manbaby, you're not stuck. You're a big girl. Leave. Childish men are as acceptable to you as you allow them to be.

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Most women I know in these situations were pressured by timelines, family, friends, women, themselves, culture to have children. Carefully screening for a suitable father is not the priority; fertility is the priority.

Men should be required to foster children for 2+ years prior to becoming eligible for fatherhood. I seriously doubt any of the 180 degree manbabys would have survived this eligibility test. Screening is possible; it's just not practical when you need a baby according to a timeline and not according to having a suitable father.

[Anonymous]

Problems arise when women want mother level control but don't want responsibility of a child. Other women either don't marry it or don't mind it if partner fulfills most other requirements. Everyone has to make some compromises.

[Anonymous]

Many men take on child like women who can't handle any responsibility, only look good and talk pretty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious.

Women (moms, girlfriends and wives) like control on their household.

No, for me it was all my MIL. She wanted to buy his underwear when he was in his thirties because I wouldn't do it. Weird.

[Anonymous]

The obvious immature ManChildren are easy to spot. Regardless of what they look like or charm.

The misogynist work addict ManChildren are a bigger problem, because they more often get married. It’s part of their image and ego to. Once married they act like a child, refusing to household things, parent or discipline the children, plan anything, support the wife, and mainly hid behind 24/7 work and screens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious.

Women (moms, girlfriends and wives) like control on their household.

Hardly. Let it get to the point where she feels like she's your mom, and your sex life is over. Women are rarely attracted to weak and needy men. Not sexy.

[Anonymous]

Agree, if a wife has had to start Mommying her spouse and running the entire house plus work plus keep her sense of self it is out of NECESSITY.

Her husband consistently fails to step up to the adult responsibilities of being married, being a parent, being a homeowner. No amount of asking him, showing him, begging him, telling him will help.

To some extent divorce would force him to, but he may walk back his hours, dump on a sitter or his mom, or let the kids run the show.