Women in 40s who are dating - what are you doing on your dates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have much money so always looking for someone who could pay for the dates and usually ok with whatever they suggest.

why do you have pay for dates? Men would do that and you just enjoy.

Maybe because she doesn’t want to cook and clean for him in return. If you want a traditional gender role man, then he is going to expect a traditional gender role woman.

[Anonymous]

First a meet and greet.

Then a first date that gives you time to talk and then regular dates that can be more interesting and can be equally planned and paid for.

[Anonymous]

My first dates were really screening dates which I kept short and cheap intentionally, so I could get out of them without guilt if necessary. I also did not go out of my way to make time for them so I didn’t waste my time. Only coffee dates before work or a cocktail after work. Yes, they were kind of a test to see who would make the effort and pay.

After that, a dinner and a walk. I live in an area that doesn’t have a lot going on, but I am active and care about my health. This was also a screener.

[Anonymous]

Drinks, jazz club, sporting events, dinners, hiking

[Anonymous]

I am ok with anything on first date if we click. I am in 40s and have slept with men on first date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have much money so always looking for someone who could pay for the dates and usually ok with whatever they suggest.

why do you have pay for dates? Men would do that and you just enjoy.

Maybe because she doesn’t want to cook and clean for him in return. If you want a traditional gender role man, then he is going to expect a traditional gender role woman.

Not true at all. We have “traditional gender roles” and when dating there were not any type of expectations. He stepped into his roles, I stepped into mine. He is an adult, if I didn’t cook he would make food or get something.I

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have much money so always looking for someone who could pay for the dates and usually ok with whatever they suggest.

why do you have pay for dates? Men would do that and you just enjoy.

Maybe because she doesn’t want to cook and clean for him in return. If you want a traditional gender role man, then he is going to expect a traditional gender role woman.

It works great if people decide on the roles and then follow through and you find a partner that's ok with it. I see the issue sometime is that people are dishonest or lazy, they want independence and opinions of feminism or being liberal for guys but don't want to financially support or pay for dates or anything like that. Just chose a role and pick good and bad of that. No need to mix and then cherry pick things from both side and staying resentful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First date is always meeting for drinks at a very upscale bar.
Other dates - museum, garden, symphony, theater, playground and walk, etc.

Nope. First date is a quick coffee. I want to know if you’re a loon before I invest in you.

- man

Couldn’t you figure out about that with a phone conversation?

[Anonymous]

Sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex

get in the mood by going to a latin dance class and sway those hips together

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First date is always meeting for drinks at a very upscale bar.
Other dates - museum, garden, symphony, theater, playground and walk, etc.

Nope. First date is a quick coffee. I want to know if you’re a loon before I invest in you.

- man

Couldn’t you figure out about that with a phone conversation?

Probably, but I also want to see an unfiltered, uncurated view of the person.

[Anonymous]

Drink at a local bar and if all goes well, dance club afterwards.