Women in 40s who are dating - what are you doing on your dates?
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Anonymous
| I've been dating some duds, cheap and lazy and who can't plan anything or maybe it's how they see me as expendable, not worth the in investment. I don't know. What has your experience been? |
Anonymous
| Hockey game, Eastern shore, Kennedy Center show so far with one guy. |
Anonymous
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Dating in your 40s, especially when you have no common starting point other than OLD is hard. When we were in college you could talk about classes you had together or people you knew in common. Now the starting ground was did you find parking ok, the weather, and maybe your kids.
I like to do something rather than stare at the person I don't know across a table. I really don't care what it is but there has to be something to talk about. I created a list because it seems many people aren't interested in putting forth anymore effort than coffee or a drink. These are all activities that I would do with an existing friend or things I want to do anyway. If someone can't find something to do with me from my list than chances are we won't be a good match because we don't seem to have common interests. Some things on my list: Sporting events (baseball/basketball/hockey)--I'm happy to buy the tickets. Ice Skating Kayaking Hiking Various DC Pop Up events (Museum of Illusions, Candlelight Concerts, DC Travel Show) Tasting Menus (we each pay our share) Arcades/Ax throwing/bowling Yes, all of my "dates" take longer than a 30 min/hour coffee date but they are things I like to do anyway and I would do them with or without a date. It's true some people don't want to invest that much time in a first date. That's okay with me. But when I sit across the table from someone I have no common ground with, it feels like a job interview. |
Anonymous
| I would never put that much time into a first date. What if he's a loser? The first date's purpose is to discard bad picks PP. Why not wait until the next date to actually do something? |
Anonymous
Because if I'm getting off the couch to begin with I'm going to do something I enjoy. |
Anonymous
| I do like your list PP |
Anonymous
+1 I wonder if that PP goes on dates at all or is just making stuff up. |
Anonymous
| I find that the longer I talk to a guy the more they want a formal date than a meetup with just coffee. |
Anonymous
What date number was this?! |
Anonymous
| Like 10? It was def a few months in. |
Anonymous
| Dance show, movie I wanted to see, hopon bus sightseeing because I’m relatively new to the area, museum event, Dave and Buster’s |
Anonymous
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I'm a man. Here are some things I've done with women in their forties (also thirties and fifties):
Coffee Drink Lunch Dinner (super cheap to super expensive) Walk Art gallery or museum Dancing Concert (bad for first date) Theater (bad for first date) Hike (bad for first date) Baseball or basketball game (bad for first date) Cooking (bad for first date) Kayak (bad for first date) Rally (bad for first date) |
Anonymous
| Rally? A protest rally or something else? |
Anonymous
That's a lot of bad date activities. What made them bad? |
Anonymous
| Oh, you mean the activities BEFORE the sex? |