Addressing s*exual content—how old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

I would not take parenting advice from someone who thinks 9 year olds are in 1st grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol I wouldn’t answer that truthfully. Just tell her something like old people say that they mean work hard or manual labor or some such cop out. 12 is about when I’d start explaining innuendo

That is absolutely the worst answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

9 would be 3rd grade.

What year were you in third grade?

Doesn’t matter. I wasn’t giving hand jobs. And no manner of peer pressure to be a cool hip parent from an online troll would have me ok that for a 9 year old in any year even 3000

Nobody said anything about giving hand jobs, you're being weird. People can know the names for activities without engaging in them.

I guarantee your kid is hearing these terms on the school bus. Stonewalling their questions is not going to stop that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

How many times were you left back that nine is first grade?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old daughter asked “what’s a hand job” after hearing the term on tv (I thought a tween 90s movie was a good idea—oooops.).

How would you answer this question for a 9 year old? I want to hear from others before revealing what I said (which I think was a mediocre response).

You tell them the truth.

There is no age that is too young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol I wouldn’t answer that truthfully. Just tell her something like old people say that they mean work hard or manual labor or some such cop out. 12 is about when I’d start explaining innuendo

That is absolutely the worst answer.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

I would not take parenting advice from someone who thinks 9 year olds are in 1st grade.

No instead your kid will be pregnant in HS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d say… when a boy rubs his penis it’s called masturbation, when someone else rubs his penis it’s called a hand job.

+1. It’s simple and truthful. I’d probably add something around consent so as to reinforce that people shouldn’t be touching kids. And also note that there are lots of terms/slang to describe things about sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

I would not take parenting advice from someone who thinks 9 year olds are in 1st grade.

No instead your kid will be pregnant in HS

And I absolutely wouldn't take parenting advice from someone who thinks accurate sex ed leads to pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"It's related to sex." That would be enough to make my kids not want to know anything more.

Does she know about sex?

This is what I would do as well. My answer would be, “it has to do with sex, do you want me to explain more” and she would say “ewww, no!”. Honestly, as she headed to middle school, I basically said, “listen, you are going to hear some words you don’t know. I am going to tell you the words and their meaning. If you have questions, I’m happy to answer them.” And then I gave her some basics. She did not want to discuss. I think it is important for kids to learn what words mean from their parents, which can also allow you to editorialize in a way that reinforces your personal values.

[Anonymous]

My son is 9 and in similar situations, we say something like, “It’s a sex thing,” which generally ends the conversation.

[Anonymous]

I just heard from another parent in my 9 year old's class that some of the boys were watching porn on a classmates phone.

Give basic factual information to your kids, folks. Have discussions about consent and STIs and pregnancy prevention. Don't leave them to figure it out from peers or on their own!

[Anonymous]

“It’s about sex. We can talk about it more if you want.”

[Anonymous]

Just make sure, at whatever age you decide, to give them proper name for sexual acts.

My friend, now former friend, ditched me at a touristy place in another country. I was walking alone when I got pushed into a car and sexually assaulted. He eventually let me go and I went to the police station. Had to explain to two male cops what he did. After the second time I said bl@w job one of the cops repeated my sentence nicely but used the term oral sex. I was really embarrassed, I was 18 years old and didn’t know the term I was supposed to use. I was a virgin but felt so low when he corrected the term.

Educate your teens or they get info from dumb people.