Addressing s*exual content—how old?

[Anonymous]

My 9 year old daughter asked “what’s a hand job” after hearing the term on tv (I thought a tween 90s movie was a good idea—oooops.).

How would you answer this question for a 9 year old? I want to hear from others before revealing what I said (which I think was a mediocre response).

[Anonymous]

lol I wouldn’t answer that truthfully. Just tell her something like old people say that they mean work hard or manual labor or some such cop out. 12 is about when I’d start explaining innuendo

[Anonymous]

Factually and blindly. "It's a sexual act, the character said it because..."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Factually and blindly. "It's a sexual act, the character said it because..."

Oops, *blandly

[Anonymous]

She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

9 would be 3rd grade.

What year were you in third grade?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say until at least middle school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

9 would be 3rd grade.

What year were you in third grade?

Doesn’t matter. I wasn’t giving hand jobs. And no manner of peer pressure to be a cool hip parent from an online troll would have me ok that for a 9 year old in any year even 3000

[Anonymous]

The nostalgia movies from the 80’s and 90’s are mainly meant for teens, we have been caught off guard by some of what is in those movies ourselves. I was older then 9 when most of the movies I remember fondly came out but they feel younger to me then they really are.

We explained what was said factually. So yes, we would explain what a hand job was to our son. The reality is we spent a decent amount of time when he was 4-5 telling him to take his hands out of his pants so he already knew the concept, it now had a name. Just tell your kid what it is and explain that it is meant to be done by consenting adults and that they should immediately tell you if anyones asks them to give them one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol I wouldn’t answer that truthfully. Just tell her something like old people say that they mean work hard or manual labor or some such cop out. 12 is about when I’d start explaining innuendo

Do not do this!

This causes big problems later on.

Just laugh it off and ignore the question and distract. Don't lie about the meaning.

[Anonymous]

"A hand job is a manicure."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She’s in 1st grade or 2nd grade Op? I made it out of elementary school without worrying about sex. It’s ok for children not to be exposed to sex at 9 years old. Let her play with Barbie and Ken without enacting hand jobs.

9 would be 3rd grade.

What year were you in third grade?

Doesn’t matter. I wasn’t giving hand jobs. And no manner of peer pressure to be a cool hip parent from an online troll would have me ok that for a 9 year old in any year even 3000

Why not answer the question?

[Anonymous]

What movie was this?

[Anonymous]

When they are physically and emotionally mature, some people participate in activities that feel good to them like hand jobs. Do you want more information?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Factually and blindly. "It's a sexual act, the character said it because..."

Oink