High school senior wants to host a ski weekend at our country house. What rules would you dictate?

[Anonymous]

BTDT with a beach house, and I insist on being there. I let them do their thing, but no way am I giving them unsupervised reign over everything.

[Anonymous]

You're nuts to even consider this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 year old boys, no.
But if they were girls, I would be more likely to be able to trust them.
My DD is 17 and she’d be responsible in this situation.

Here we go again with the typical DCUM misandry. I seriously hope you don't have any sons who have undoubtedly internalized this by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:18 year old boys, no.
But if they were girls, I would be more likely to be able to trust them.
My DD is 17 and she’d be responsible in this situation.

Okay. My kids are only 13 and 15 right now, so hard to be sure, but my guess is, down the road, I would trust DS and hid friends in this situation more than DD and her friends. OP obviously seems okay with it. She is looking for rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're nuts to even consider this.

Not OP, but why? If this exact same friend group's other families have hosted similar weekends without incident, and OP knows all the boys, why in the world would OP be nuts to consider it? What is so crazy about your kids' social groups that you feel this way and how does it apply to OP?

[Anonymous]

How many kids? If you are there sounds fine. It sounded like they were all driving to your country house unsupervised from the initial post.

[Anonymous]

I allowed my daughter to go for a ski weekend out of state with a group of friends in HS. The parents were there and were great communicating with us. Lots of complications w travel Our biggest fear was injury on the slopes and as I recall one of the friend group did get a ski patrol ride to the hospital. Families all assumed risk and the parents were very good about keeping us informed every day at the end of the day. There was no drinking we knew of and they only took uber into town or parents drove/dropped them off

[Anonymous]

Have fun ?

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh, this is a huge liability. I can’t believe you would agree to this. If any of these kids is drinking while skiing and gets hurt – and they can prove they got it from your place. You are royally effed.

[Anonymous]

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Right????

God people are so dumb

You do realize these are legal adults, right? Some of you are such freaks

Maybe they are but I wouldn't want to be held responsible for these legal adults dumb decisions when their litigious parents come after me. So I would say no unless I planned to be there.

There is no vicarious or host liability for 18 year olds in most states. They are considered legal adults. The only exceptions would be if the host served alcohol

HS seniors aren't all 18. I would assume some 17 yr olds would be there. And still, this would never stop litigious parents for finding some way to blame the homeowners. Pass.

Follow the thread. Yes, 18

Some of you are so naive. Other kids can crash, some might bring alcohol with them, drugs, or any other illegal things might be happening. But sure, be the cool parents!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:oh I bet they do

Right????

God people are so dumb

You do realize these are legal adults, right? Some of you are such freaks

They aren't of legal age for drinking and you know they will be doing that. This has to be a troll. No one can be this stupid.

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Anonymous wrote:oh I bet they do

Right????

God people are so dumb

You do realize these are legal adults, right? Some of you are such freaks

They aren't of legal age for drinking and you know they will be doing that. This has to be a troll. No one can be this stupid.

Back in my day we would have brought water bottles with vodka pilfered from our parents liquor cabinets to sleep overs. The parents had no clue and we were 16, 17, 18.

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Anonymous wrote:oh I bet they do

Right????

God people are so dumb

You do realize these are legal adults, right? Some of you are such freaks

NP here with a beach house. My DC wanted to do this at our place and I said no. I don’t care if they’re 18. There would probably be drinking, maybe pot, sex, possibly driving, and by open water. No way. NO.

[Anonymous]

I’d let my teen invite one friend. Anything else is asking for trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:oh I bet they do

Right????

God people are so dumb

You do realize these are legal adults, right? Some of you are such freaks

Maybe they are but I wouldn't want to be held responsible for these legal adults dumb decisions when their litigious parents come after me. So I would say no unless I planned to be there.

There is no vicarious or host liability for 18 year olds in most states. They are considered legal adults. The only exceptions would be if the host served alcohol

HS seniors aren't all 18. I would assume some 17 yr olds would be there. And still, this would never stop litigious parents for finding some way to blame the homeowners. Pass.

Follow the thread. Yes, 18

Some of you are so naive. Other kids can crash, some might bring alcohol with them, drugs, or any other illegal things might be happening. But sure, be the cool parents!

Those things happen, but some of us went through this with our now adult kids, trusted what we knew of their friends based on actual previous parties/weekends, and everything was fine and they had a great time. And we were aware of most of what they were doing the whole time, and if somehow they snuck some horrible thing or activity in, it didn't affect any of them for the worse. Just because you don't know your kids friends well enough or you do know them well and know they can't be trusted, doesn't mean that is the scenario for most parents. OP go for it, just be super clear about your rules (no alcohol of any kind, no drugs of any kind, no sneaking other people not on the guest list in, and any violation of the rules ends the whole weekend immediately and they all have to go home. And go over those rules with the whole group, don't just rely on your DS to tell his friends.