Weird friend dynamic; any response needed?

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have one the bigger, more expensive houses in the neighborhood?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not saying that the Small Group members are being fair to you, OP. They are not and are being rude. But I have to wonder if with OP hosting the Bigger Group party that the Small Group members are feeling left out or slighted in some only-makes-sense-to-them way? As in, they may have looked up their Small Group as more exclusive and "theirs" and OP was a big part of that and now OP is, in their minds, mingling with the masses instead of just their more "special" smaller group. Yes, it is extremely middle-schoolish but that is what popped into my head when reading the OP's post.

Simply put, people do not like change.

+1 I am friends with a small group of women who are neighbors (with each other, not me). I am better friends with another woman X who has somehow become part of this huge, popular group. When X had a party, she invited me and I met a woman who knows my smaller group — lives in their neighborhood. When I told the smaller group that I’d met their neighbor, they asked questions and were upset that I might be moving on. They behaved like mean girls — getting together at the last minute and flooding the group chat with pictures. I stopped getting together with them. In our 50’s and I am past middle school behavior!

[Anonymous]

Your neighborhood is like high school.

[Anonymous]

I would ignore and let them get over themselves. Then you can revisit it in the new year