I'm so depressed and worried about my kid. I just need to put this somewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid has been out of school (doing online) this whole year. Anxiety, health challenges. They are a junior in HS. I am having so much trouble dealing with how this happening this year is going to affect them so much more than if it happened in middle school. I'm thinking ahead to college apps, wondering if they'll even go to school and feeling so sad. I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to about it, so here I am. I'm seeing so many college acceptances and my kid is doing online school and I don't even know if they'll go to college. 1 year ago this wouldn't have been a question but now here we are.

All through HS they have had significant health challenges, but we managed until now.

I am so sad watching everyone else lead their lives. No one really reaches out to see how they are doing. It is so lonely and I am falling into a depression.

I'm sorry for typing this but it is so hard. I just needed to "say" it somewhere.

OP your post really spoke to me. We have a 2e child who began struggling at this time and the big thing that we both did that was freeing to both of us was not making college the goal anymore. I think our child will still go to college eventually but we are both happy thinking of alternatives too. We've met a number of other happy young adults who ended up delaying college a year, going to 2 year schools or doing other types of programs so that gives me a lot of hope.

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All the best to you, OP

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OP, I know you don't want to to hear this, but there's always part time community college.

And if you are full pay (ie have lots of money) there are TONS of colleges who will take underperforming kids who can pay full tuition.

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OP, I'm sorry that your DS is struggling. It is so hard.

My niece struggled with anxiety and other issues as a teenager and did almost the entirety of high school online. It was not great, in many ways. It did impact her college trajectory. She took a gap year and mostly worked on getting healthy, and then did 2 years of community college in person. She did really well there, and this fall started at a 4-year university, living on campus. She's had some struggles, but just finished up the semester and ended on a really good note--having done well in her classes and made some friends. My brother and SIL have been holding their breaths the entire time, but she made it and she's actually excited to go back, which is a huge victory.

There are lots of paths to success. Your DS will find his way. Sending good thoughts your way.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you all. I'm feeling better just getting a chance to get it all out. I appreciate your kind responses

One bright spot has been it has made both me and especially my child become more empathetic and realizing people may be carrying burdens you don't know about.

OP, I obviously do not know you or your child but your statement just above tells me everything I need to know: that in times of incredible personal challenge and stress you both still manage to think positively and look to support others. It says volumes about each of you. It may take time but I do believe that you and your child will get to the other side of this current time.

NP here. Such a nice post.

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Anonymous wrote:We are in a very similar situation - my daughter is a junior with health struggles and anxiety, also in online school. Over the past year she has had to quit her sport and lost most of her friends. I'm worried all the time. You are not alone.

This is our situation with DD also a junior, enrolled on homebound school with zero academic support and completely alone socially. We can’t seem to get past the school refusal situation. OP, you are not alone.

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Anonymous wrote:We are in a very similar situation - my daughter is a junior with health struggles and anxiety, also in online school. Over the past year she has had to quit her sport and lost most of her friends. I'm worried all the time. You are not alone.

This is our situation with DD also a junior, enrolled on homebound school with zero academic support and completely alone socially. We can’t seem to get past the school refusal situation. OP, you are not alone.

Are you in FCPS? Op here, and we are and on Homebound. a mix of edmentum and unsupported classes is a nightmare. Edmentum is total garbage - I am so disappointed in our school system for doing this. Hugs to you PP