Settlement during divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am hoping to settle out of court and he does have a reputation to lose..

Truly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.

That depends on who he cheated with. Remember the Coldplay couple? If your affair would be damaging to your company, people care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am hoping to settle out of court and he does have a reputation to lose..

Truly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.

That depends on who he cheated with. Remember the Coldplay couple? If your affair would be damaging to your company, people care.

Yup-its considered a crime where they both work!

[Anonymous]

ruly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.

Pretty much everyone I know would judge the cheater. You clearly hang out with people with low morals like yours.

[Anonymous]

Truly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.

Extremely ironic take given the news about Sherrone Moore right now. Major sports commentators all seem to agree that his football career is over due to his cheating (exacerbated further by his breakdown) and his reputation has most definitely been harmed.

I'm sure you are a cheater who wants to believe that people don't really care, but the truth is that many people actually do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Truly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.

Extremely ironic take given the news about Sherrone Moore right now. Major sports commentators all seem to agree that his football career is over due to his cheating (exacerbated further by his breakdown) and his reputation has most definitely been harmed.

I'm sure you are a cheater who wants to believe that people don't really care, but the truth is that many people actually do.

He wasn't in trouble for cheating, it was for having an inappropriate relationship with a subordinate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Truly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.

Extremely ironic take given the news about Sherrone Moore right now. Major sports commentators all seem to agree that his football career is over due to his cheating (exacerbated further by his breakdown) and his reputation has most definitely been harmed.

I'm sure you are a cheater who wants to believe that people don't really care, but the truth is that many people actually do.

He wasn't in trouble for cheating, it was for having an inappropriate relationship with a subordinate.

jj

If your point is that some kinds of cheating don't necessarily trigger social or professional consequences, I agree. But, some kinds of cheating - in the workplace, nonconsensual, young women or w/ sex workers - do have professional consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

ruly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.

Pretty much everyone I know would judge the cheater. You clearly hang out with people with low morals like yours.

I made the original pariah comment and that's been my experience as well.

I intentionally surround myself with community-minded people. They volunteer. They aren't self-absorbed. And yes, they are disgusted when someone gaslights their spouse and kids and then runs off with an affair partner.

I just found out that our teenager asked him a year ago if he was with his AP, and he said, "No, but I might be in a year. But don't tell Mama or your sister." This obvious lie and then directive to keep his secret created huge anxiety and depression for her. She asked to see a counselor at that time, but I didn't know why. The counselor said, "Well can you ask your dad again?" and she said, "He already lied to me once." She had a friend help her google the AP's maiden name to see if that was who he was texting all the time.

That is the problem. Nobody cares what consenting adults do when they are honest and open, and end one relationship before starting another. Even I will say that and I'm the one who got discarded. People do care about gaslighting and blameshifting and excuses and lies. You prove yourself to be an untrustworthy person when you behave like that.