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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]ruly NO ONE cares about infidelity anymore. It's not reputation-harming. It's 2025. Fifty years ago? Sure. Today? It's good gossip and that's it. No one wears a scarlet A anymore.
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Pretty much everyone I know would judge the cheater.  You clearly hang out with people with low morals like yours.[/quote]

I made the original pariah comment and that's been my experience as well.

I intentionally surround myself with community-minded people. They volunteer. They aren't self-absorbed. And yes, they are disgusted when someone gaslights their spouse and kids and then runs off with an affair partner.

I just found out that our teenager asked him a year ago if he was with his AP, and he said, "No, but I might be in a year. But don't tell Mama or your sister." This obvious lie and then directive to keep his secret created huge anxiety and depression for her. She asked to see a counselor at that time, but I didn't know why. The counselor said, "Well can you ask your dad again?" and she said, "He already lied to me once." She had a friend help her google the AP's maiden name to see if that was who he was texting all the time.

That is the problem. Nobody cares what consenting adults do when they are honest and open, and end one relationship before starting another. Even I will say that and I'm the one who got discarded. People do care about gaslighting and blameshifting and excuses and lies. You prove yourself to be an untrustworthy person when you behave like that.[/quote]

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