Conflicted about potential relocation for job

[Anonymous]

You'll never be able to with certainty be able to make that kind of choice. You have to either want to do it or not. If you like the job, your DH is in, go for it! It's one of those life decisions that you have to go all in on if that's what you feel like doing and not worry so much about the future because it's impossible to think through all the what ifs.

Your kids are still ok to do this. That is for me a practical reason why you should go with your heart on this. The future is still a void that can be manifested into anything you desire but.. HS is so much harder for relo and to an extent even 8th for a kid

Good luck!!!

[Anonymous]

1) I was mostly in the "go for it" group until you said Florida. Several reasons I wouldn't live there again (aside from politics which IS a real issue in many parts of the state). Have you visited the city you are looking in, to be sure you aren't in love with the 'idea' of what you expect there vs. the reality. Assume you have already.

2) FWIW, I wouldn't uproot my family for a small pay increase (so hopefully its meaningful) - and especially if the job market there will sustain you and DH if either of you losses your job. It's going to be much harder to move your kids when they get just a few years older.

3) I would be sure the cost of real estate that you would buy is within budget/commute/school districts you want. When we moved there (granted it was about 12 yrs ago), we rented for ~4 months while we house shopped. And when all was said and done we realized that to get a similar house to what we had before was actually going to cost more than expected because we were in a popular coastal city. So make sure you do your homework on that big ticket item

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) I was mostly in the "go for it" group until you said Florida. Several reasons I wouldn't live there again (aside from politics which IS a real issue in many parts of the state). Have you visited the city you are looking in, to be sure you aren't in love with the 'idea' of what you expect there vs. the reality. Assume you have already.

2) FWIW, I wouldn't uproot my family for a small pay increase (so hopefully its meaningful) - and especially if the job market there will sustain you and DH if either of you losses your job. It's going to be much harder to move your kids when they get just a few years older.

3) I would be sure the cost of real estate that you would buy is within budget/commute/school districts you want. When we moved there (granted it was about 12 yrs ago), we rented for ~4 months while we house shopped. And when all was said and done we realized that to get a similar house to what we had before was actually going to cost more than expected because we were in a popular coastal city. So make sure you do your homework on that big ticket item

PP, forgot to mention we lived there 3 years and moved back to MD. For me it was a hot, boring, place, but my wife liked it. In the end we moved for a significant promotion and to be closer to family again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 40F, recently laid off, married with three kids (11, 8, and 2). We live in an area I really dislike - moved here for DH’s job several years ago but he has been fully remote since Covid - but have a gorgeous house here. I’ve had a very hard time finding any community and it’s a place where you’re inside half the year due to cold and snow, and it gets harder on me every year.

I’ve been interviewing with a company for a role that read as tailor-made for me, and they’ve moved me through the process very quickly: I would be making more than I made in my previous role and it’s a great opportunity for my career. DH is senior in his company and there’s no indication they will go back to in person: maybe a meeting every few months.

This new role has required on-site presence several days a week in a state I would *love* to live in, with a comparable cost of living to what we pay now. The company I’m interviewing with offers generous relocation; they’re flying me out for the final round next week. But I recognize that uprooting and relocating will be a huge change for all of us. How do you go about making such a big decision?

TIA.

You’re inside half the year due to cold weather and you live in WV? WTF? is there something wrong wtih you that makes you unnaturally susceptible to the cold? Just dress warmly. Good Lord.